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writes:i feel so wretched.heres my story.in 1999 i started work at a job where i met someone i started dating-it became pretty serious quickly and we got engaged and about a year later got a house together in 2000.around 2001 i met a guy at work and i cant explain it we became really good friends-he was every my fiancee wasnt-funny took the trouble to compliment me etc, made me feel good about myself-all the things my fiancee wasnt doing and didnt want to even though we had talks about stuff.anyway towards the end of 2002 i dont know what happened but i left my fiancee-i just felt he didnt care at all and just took me for granted-i left him the car and the house-which he sold in 2007shortly after i started dating my good friend in 2003up until recently i have still been with this person but i cannot believe the way things have turned out. he has been very cold to me for the last 4 years, has left me financially destitute and i am on the verge of leaving him.recently a girl i used to work with at my old job told me my first ex had got married i dont know why i felt so bad-like a knife going through me i felt so bad and have been crying and very depressed for the last month since i heard. i just feel like dirt. i feel like a bad person and have had thoughts of not being here anymore.my friend also said my first ex had become friends with some people on facebook who he said to me at the time he hated so that confused me aswell.i just hate myself im a bad person and just deserve to rot. sorry
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2009): SO now you know that the grass is not always greener at the other side.
You have to grow and live with your decisions. Mourn your losses and find someone else to fix your heart, but be discriminating in your choice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2009): Guess you need some time to think about everything you've done. Instead of feeling so bad, try to look on a little brighter side that you've learnt something good about life. Forget about your first ex , he is living his life now as you are. Just try to get away from this guy you are with and get back your life together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2009): Apologies mean nothing if you do not react on it for change. Rather than continue this self-sympathy and misery, you need to be more aware of what's really happening.His life is his own, as yours is your own. What he does, what he has become, what he has now has absolutely no relation to you. You went through life, making the choices you did and came to this point feeling the way you do. You can either continue to let misery swallow you whole or side step out of it and move towards something that may rejuvenate your life.The world is your playground. Explore it.
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