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writes: I've been seeing my boyfriend for about 5 months now. We've been crazily in love for 3 months of that and I completely adore him. We can't spend enough time with each other, and when we are together we literally can't keep our hands off each other.We first had sex 2 months ago. It was, I guess you could say, a little awkward in the sense that quite a few things went wrong : condom came off, he kept coming out, etc.. But it was still amazing. He was on top at first for a short amount of time and then I took over. It was hard for us to get into a good enough position but when we did it was pretty good.We've had sex twice since then (it's pretty hard to get an opportunity where we can - our parents are always in) and each time has been a little less clumsy and the last went pretty smoothly.. He was on top the whole time. However, neither of us has cum yet.I'm pretty nervous about foreplay to him and so never have done so.. but he drives me crazy when he does things to me whether we have sex afterwards or not.I really wanna make the next time we have sex INCREDIBLE. I'm looking for some simple things that could drive him crazy during sex (or before) and also sure fire ways that we can reach that climax!Any help would be appreciated!
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reader, Tomas  +, writes (21 February 2009):
satindesire, are you giving away guy secrets again???
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionCouldn't have asked for a better answer!
Thanks a lot (:
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for taking the time to reply... :)
I know i'm gonna need to just DO it, i want to do it for a start! And i don't want him to think i'm grossed out by the thought of it and i guess that's another reason why i haven't approached the subject with him.
We've discussed sex a lot. We talked about it long before we actually first had sex. I have consiously aimed to be as mature and safe as possible with sex between him and me and it hasn't been difficult because he has had the same attitude.
We almost had sex several times before we finally did, and i had the confidence and self-respect to say no at the last hurdle (very mean i know!) because i just wasn't ready... it would maybe be my mindset at the time or it was the wrong situation (we were quite drunk or were in the wrong place). And he was supportive and understanding throughout that although i was aware for sure that he wanted to.
And we have also talked about his foreplay towards me... I tell him what i like and what i don't like (for example when he's been too rough) and praise him when he's made me feel amazing!
We're definately quite good at the communication side of things, i just certainly agree with you that i need to bring THIS issue up with him because if i think about it, he'll be the one lone person who'll be able to reassure me the most.
RE: do i know where and what my clitoris is? etc..
I'm well aware of that area of my body.. To an extent i guess... (obviously im still young and haven't had a heck of a lot of experience) But i know where and what my clitoris is. I keep myself well informed n know the basic technicalities of both mine and my boyfriend's genitals..! Perhaps i could inform him of the technicalities though.. That's a good idea! Thanks..
Any advice on how i can approach that subject of foreplay with him?
Or, going back to my original question, how I can make the next time we have sex and the lead up to it better than it has been before?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIm 17, i'm on the pill and we've used condoms all 3 times. We have definately been safe...
I would definately like to be more comfortable with foreplay .. Any tips on that then?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAny constructive tips or advice?
That one wasn't so helpful...
Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAnyone with any actual advice?...
Thanks
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (20 February 2009):
 I don't have sex tips for minors.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2009): Dont be scared of forplay. How come you can let him have sex with you but you wont touch him?
In my opinion that is ilogical.
good luck
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