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writes:Im so god damn stressed and depressed. I feel like my life is a load of crap and it will never get better. At work, i feel like im not good enough for them, im just to common, I girl that likes to have a good time, im not stuck up my own arse!My love life is non existent, because i keep crying over a loser i split up with a year ago, stil cant forget, cant move on. The guys I meet have got girls...or they ignore me, or im just not into them.I wana puke everytime i see a couple, im dreading the hearts and flowers in the windows of florists already..for valentines day! get me a sick bucket! no man is faithful, it all ends in tears.. I just want a bloody shag, so ive bought myself a dildo! Bet you fink im a slag now?! ...anyway... im lonely...sad... and bitter. im turning into scrooge..help! everyday is the same day in day out...why is everyone else so loved up and happy? wheres my hapiness? it doesnt exist!!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2008): I used to be happy and content in my marriage. I always knew that my husband had the potential to screw around, just never thought he would do so with an illegal immigrant 18 years younger than him! We split up and got back together. It has been almost 2 years and I hate him for what he did to our marriage. Things were good, we laughed all of the time, not any more! All he does is yell at me because I can't "get over it" and all I do is cry! I had a great opportunity where I work, had just started when I found out about this nasty whore coming into my life! Tell me why a 40+ year old man would start texting this minimum wage anchor baby producing tamale?
She didn't love him, she wanted a green card! Mexican food is good but not every single night! My man loves southern meals, collard greens and black eyed peas. He don't like kids either, but this whore had one. I hate my life now. I was once vibrant, beautiful and full of love and because he let this whore intice him all of that has changed. When will it all end? When will have joy again?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2008): I used to be happy and content in my marriage. I always knew that my husband had the potential to screw around, just never thought he would do so with an illegal immigrant 18 years younger than him! We split up and got back together. It has been almost 2 years and I hate him for what he did to our marriage. Things were good, we laughed all of the time, not any more! All he does is yell at me because I can't "get over it" and all I do is cry! I had a great opportunity where I work, had just started when I found out about this nasty whore coming into my life! Tell me why a 40+ year old man would start texting this minimum wage anchor baby producing tamale?
She didn't love him, she wanted a green card! Mexican food is good but not every single night! My man loves southern meals, collard greens and black eyed peas. He don't like kids either, but this whore had one. I hate my life now. I was once vibrant, beautiful and full of love and because he let this whore intice him all of that has changed. When will it all end? When will have joy again?
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reader, Sams_WonderWoman  +, writes (23 January 2008):
 What Laura1318 said is right on the money. I always try to smile even when I am not feeling good. Try smiling more even when you don't feel like it. It helps me to feel better about myself.Try getting a positive attitude rather than a negative one. Take time out on you by pampering yourself to a new hairstyle and color, a few new outfits, and if you can't go to a spa make one in your bathroom. When you look into the mirror, say to yourself out loud that you are a wonderful person or something positive about yourself. What works for me is to take your negative feelings write them down on paper, then tear them up and throw them away. I also pray to God for help for anything that is bothering me. He always comes through for me, and He will do the same for you if you give Him the chance. I hope this helps you cause you are wonderfully made by HIM. You deserve to be happy, just pray for happiness and you will have it before you know it. Please let us know how things are going for you because we care what happens to you!!!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (23 January 2008):
 Few things are needed to satisfy a wise man but nothing satisfies a fool;and this is the reason why so many of mankind
are miserable - Rochefoucould
Happiness comes from being contented with what we have and knowing how to enjoy them.
A smile does not cost much. I am happy I can smile always.When I was sick and in pain , I could not even smile at all.I promised myself , I will always smile when I get well.Now I can smile everyday and I am being happy because of this little action.
I may not be rich by this world's standards but I am happy that I am in good health and my body is free from pain or diseases.I feel sorry for those who are sick and I think I am very blessed by God.
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reader, rcn +, writes (23 January 2008):
 First of all buying a vibrator is OK. I know pleanty of women who have them. I don't think any less of them than I would any other women. Second, no all guys cheat. I'm someone who does not. I'd casterate myself before you'd find me inflicting that sort of pain on anyone else.
Your happiness does exist. It's within you. There is such a misconception on how people really believe someone has the power to make someone else happy. They might enhance the feelings, but they don't create them.
Let me tell you. I was right where you are now, seven years ago. I lost someone I really loved, but found out part of it was my fault. I felt so guilty over not being able to see it before it was too late and make changes then. I would shop at Wal-Mart in the middle of the night because I couldn't stand being around people who were happy. I even asked my son who's 17, and was 10 at the time, when going into a store, "does't people smiling just make you sick." I was jealous of relationships, and people who were happy, when all my happiness was stripped away. I was drinking 1 big bottle of rum ever 2-3 days. Now enough about my story. Let's look at the solution.
I was this way because I was upset, not at what I had, but what I didn't have. What relationship skills did other people have that I was lacking. Did their girlfriend come with an instruction manual, mine sure did not. The most difficult part in moving on was finding out everything I did wrong that wouldn't have taken much effort to improve. It's so easy to see others with their faults, and difficult to evaluate our own. I then decided, in order to stop being jealous, and feeling sorry for who I'd become, I had to change my beliefs, how I do things, and learn how relationships work. Once I did that, I knew I had to forgive those who cheated on me in the past. I did it, not for their benefit, but so I could remove the red flags that were caused by the pain from being cheated on. It felt like a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders. When that happened, I automatically began developing a new appreciation for just being me, and being able to appreciate the smallest of things. I sat outside my appartment for an hour or so, just appreciating the environment. I bet I haden't done that since I was a kid. It was amazing.
You sound like a wonderful and caring person. Once you find it in yourself to forgive people who hurt you and yourself for making bad choices and for not knowing, then you can really begin loving yourself, and from that your ability to find true love will greatly increase. Seven years later, I'm single now, and haven't even dated (or had any sexual relationships) for two years now. This is by choice. All though I'm single, and at times get lonely, I love it, because I love life, and appreciate the small tings in life.
I hope this helps you look at what's going on in a new prospective. Take care, and I wish you the best.
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