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writes:Hi, not sure where to start on this one. I don't know why but I'm just not attracted to women that are of the same race as me. I've tried but it just doesn't seem to work for me. Is this so wrong? I seem to be attracted to white girls. I have an Asian background and am worried that this is the reason that I've been single for a long time. I haven't seen many mixed relationships between white and Asian and I think that this may be causing me to lose confidence. Am I the only one who thinks like this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): I have found myself attracted to many races, asian, black, mexican, a few others, and have even dated them. It depends on what is inside, not the outside. Sexual attraction is important.
Sitting down and asking yourself why you feel this way, over time, may provide you an answer. Something your thinking or has happened to you may make you think this way.
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reader, LTron  +, writes (29 April 2008):
I'm a white girl, and I am very attracted to Asian men. I've seen a lot of white/Asian couples too. You probably just haven't met the right girl yet!
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (29 April 2008):
 Who the heck cares who you date? I'm half black, half white (though, most people who look at me just chalk me up as a light skinned Black person) and I've actually never dated a Black fella. Not as if I wouldn't, or won't - I simply have found myself attracted to wimpy blond guys my whole life. Finally, I ended up with a brawny brunette - but a white fella nonetheless. Some people give me jibber jabber about my race, his race or the fact that he's not my "type" (I know what that means... means, he's not Black - to them I say "SCREW YOU! You are ignorant and negative and that's a shame. I'm in love and happy, so hah.).
WHO THE HELL CARES?!? Be with who you want to be. I wouldn't say that you should exclude Asian girls from your wandering eye - but don't pressure yourself to be attracted to one race or the other. These things work themselves out and you'll end up with someone that you're completely in love with. That's what matters -- not what color they are.
I agree with the other Aunts, that you probably aren't finding relationships due to a lack of confidence - if you feel good about YOURSELF people will feel good about being with you.
Take the pressure down a few notches and don't worry about races or anything like that. Worry about being yourself and enjoying being young and available! You're a hot tamale and one of these fine ladies is sure to realize it soon!
xx India
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): Awww! This question is almost cute.
Being white, I find myself attracted to all kinds of people, but I too find asian males more attractive by far, than white males.
So see? We're opposites! And since I think that my thoughts are natural, yours must be too!
Anyways, don't worry about it. Some one who does attract you will someday come to you, and then you'll feel silly for ever thinking things like this ^_^ Just be patient!
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reader, BigSis +, writes (28 April 2008):
 I don't know what happened to my post there, but some of the text was missing, what I was trying to say was.....
...I can't see this as being such a big problem, unless of course your family are going to make you marry someone from your background.
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reader, BigSis +, writes (28 April 2008):
"I have an Asian background and am worried that this is the reason that I've been single for a long time."
You musn't blame your Asian background for being single.
What's so wrong with not being attracted to a woman of the same race as you? If you're not attracted to Asian women then so what? Each person has their own preferred taste in the opposite sex.
It's not that much different from me having a preference to tall, dark haired men rather than short, blonde guys.
I can't see this as being such a big problem, unless of course your family are going to
Just go out there and find a girl that you are attracted to and enjoy your life, and never mind what nationality she is.
Good luck
BigSis
xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2008): Nothing wrong with that. It's just your preference. Me, I don't find myself attracted to men with blond hair - who knows why! Besides, inter-racial relationship are kind of "in" these days. Anti-establishment and progressive and all that ;)
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