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writes:So recently I realized that I'm constantly feeling envious of my boyfriend's sex organs. I don't know what to do, it is a constant obsession that actually interferes with my life. I'm incredibly satisfied in bed, always, and have an orgasm every time, a really mind-blowing one too usually. Even my boyfriend admits he's jealous of my orgasms. But I realized that often during sex and while masturbating what I'm fantasizing about is what it would feel like if I was a man. My orgasms come easily, for a woman, but I want them to come as easily as for a man. Or to feel what it feels like to ejaculate as a man though I've female ejaculated plenty. Like when he talks about masturbating, I get really angry and upset. Not because I care he's doing it, but because I want to be able to and can't in the same easy way. I know I need to talk to a pro, but for now I don't have the resources to. I don't think I'm "transgendered" or whatever as the thought of a sex change sounds AWFUL. I also don't feel like a man in a woman's body, I feel like a woman who's jealous. Plus life as a transgendered person, from what I hear, isn't very satisfying (if you're female to male anyways). Any advice? Please?
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reader, spartan_3wy  +, writes (25 December 2009):
exactly how StraightTalker said in the comment before i also know more men that have multiple including me,i am uncircumsized european guy and havent done anything to develop this,it just happens for some reason i dont lose erection and beeing uncircumsized gives me the most incredible sensatin in orgasm ,when i have them with a girl i lose total control of my body and start shaking and moaning ,so yeah you have plenty of reasons to be jelous of our anatomy :P
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (23 December 2009):
 Well female will satisfy with my answer...Female is female only with procreative function and child birth...But, as far as 'sex pleasure' is concerned, male and female is ONE.Both possess 'sex organ', which has single one attribute:PLEASURE.EJACULATION in male is also procreative function, but before ejaculation, the experience of PLEASURE, derived from sex organ, and grasped by MIND is one withuut second.Mind is not classified in to male mind and female mind. It is only body's classification in to male and female, according to 'procreative' function. But mind is one, whose chief function is to perceive the reality of object.I think, this reply will satisfy male and female, as they may feel 'oneness', having one mind which perceive one reality. Is it not nice?
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reader, StraightTalker  +, writes (10 December 2009):
I think you are normal, everyone has this curiosity about how it would feel for the other sex...Maybe some counselling wouldn't go ammis not for this specific problem but maybe you have a hard time letting things go in general and tend to let things make you angry? but think about it this way. Every man is different, every woman is different so how one man climaxs may be completely different to the way another man climaxs. So you would have to experience life as every single man on the planet! That may take a very long time! And by the way you sound like you have fantastic sex and i thiknk most people reading this are extremely jealous of you!!! Good luck, I hope you sort this out!
Ok, to one or two of the men that have answered this. I would like to Set a couple of things straight. 1)Out of all my female friends only one of them can have multiple orgasms. I actually know more men that have had more than one orgasm in one session. (porn has a lot to answer for) 2)If a woman climaxs early it IS an issue as sex feels extremely uncomfortable afterwards. 3)Women not having to worry about performance anxiety? Erm Ive actually had a man fake an orgasm with me.AND I have had comments from more than one sexual pertner about me being too dry...and its not exactlt sexy to stop in the heat of the moment and crack open the KY! 4)My boyfriends orgasms last longer than mine.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (9 December 2009):
If you only knew how short a man's orgasm was. You've never want to be a man again. Believe me, men may climax more easily, but you girls have ten times more fun when it happens.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (9 December 2009):
 Freud would have had a hay day with you. I think you will need some therapy if this whole penis envy stuff makes you so angry. Something is off kilter here and only a professional can help you get a handle on it. Double check on your resources, there may be a way to get assistance with the cost of therapy.
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reader, Illithid +, writes (9 December 2009):
 Funny. I envy YOU for your organs.
- Women are capable of multiple orgams in a row, whereas men are limited to one (two if lucky) and then a longer cooldown. My most recent girlfriend regularly had six or more orgasms per session. I was happy just to have one.
- Women don't have to worry about making such a huge mess when they climax.
- Women don't need the same performance anxiety. If you can't get wet enough, there's still lube. If I can't get it hard enough, I'm just considered a loser.
- Women can last longer. If your man finishes early, it's over and he's failed you. If you finish early, you can generally keep going and don't have to be ashamed.
- I can't say for certain, but I'd assume you get more sensation in the first place, since the clitoris has as many nerve endings as the entire penis! And since most men in America (such as myself) are circumsized, we have even fewer than that.
- Women can receive better oral, given the ability to stimulate the clitoris and G-Spot simultaneously whereas men are still just getting the mouth as a substitute for vagina. (Ignoring that I know far more men that enjoy oral on a woman than women that are even tolerant of oral on a men.)
Clearly, it's not all in favor of women. Men are glad not to have periods, or childbirth, or menopause. But I've always felt that in the bedroom, a woman has the better deal (assuming she's with a man that cares about her pleasure).
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