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*ew_at_this
writes:ok so me and my boyfriend have been dating for over five months and just a few days ago i gave him his first hand job (in his life) and he gave me my first(in my life). i have a few questions now though.1:since it was my first hand job, i feel like while he was giving it to me i was breathing and moaning a lot and i felt like i couldnt control it. i know i had an orgasm but i feel slightly embarrassed by the fact that i cant control how hard i breathe. i dont want things to be awkward when he does that to me next, simply because im breathing weird. is this normal?? and is it really a turn on for some guys when girls moan and breath deep??2:when i gave him his first hand job, he came A LOT. his come got all over the sweat pants i was wearing (he was laying next to me at the time) and it got on his pants and some of my shirt. we had to go clean both of our clothes in the bath room and i had to go home soon after because his parents would be home soon and it wasnt all comeing off my sweats. how can i make sure he knows that what happened hasnt changed anything?? i dont want him to think that since that day i wont ever give him a hand job. i talked to him about it but how can i know for sure hes not TOO embarrassed??thank you for your time :)
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reader, new_at_this +, writes (10 December 2009):
new_at_this is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you guys for all of your advice. today we got together again and he told me my breathing was a turn on and i grabbed a towel and threw it at him before i gave him a hand job, to try to make him laugh, and it worked. :) he laughed and said good thinking. :) everything is going great now. thank you all!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (9 December 2009):
No need to be embarrassed. He will have enjoyed every second of it.
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reader, Illithid +, writes (9 December 2009):
 1) Most guys I know love to make a girl breathe heavily and even moan. As long as you're not faking it, it's a huge turn on. And really, when receiving manual stimulation, it's normal to yield control and just let him do what he's doing (though you're more than welcome, even encouraged, to give directions like "harder" or "not so fast"). And if he's going to be very good at it, he needs to know what feels good for you and what doesn't. He can use your breathing and reactions as a guide to let him know when he's hitting the right spot.
2) Men make messes. It's not something we can control, and from the sounds of it you did a nice job for him. But if he's embarressed, the only thing you can do is either reassure him (verbally), or initiate another session sometime to show you still want it. Do make sure you're prepared for the mess though (and maybe grab some paper towel).
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2009): well dont worrie about the moaning and breathing all girls do it, it lets the guy know he is doing a good job, like i would say 99% of guys are turned on by this so he more then likly was and thats why he came alot maybe. and #2 well just give him another hand job and say can u cum that much again i really liked it, and he probally wont be embarrased, and he even might not be now. hope i was helpful
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