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writes:Hi i really find it difficult to trust my boyfriend he has never cheated or anything im just very jealous and untrusting. I saw my mum have alot of bad experiences. Little things really get to me its like i need to control everything i hate it when he changes plans or doesnt give me exact times. I dont want to lose him please help...
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2008): i went thru the same thing and i was a very very jealous gf. i rang him all the time when i didnt know where he was and got really upset when he hung out with other female friends. what set me straight was when he started complaining about a clingy gf and stopped talkin to me or telling me anything. he hid his myspace comments from me and would keep his phone on him all the time and would never let me near his computer...of course i got more jealous because he did this stuff and thought he was cheating on me. I was going to lose him if i kept it up. so i simply just stopped doing it..it drove me crazy like u would not believe but he recognised (afta a 4 weeks) that i hadnt checked his phone, complained about him going out or asking him who ranomd girls were and he very much appreciated it. you need to just look at the bigger picture and it may just be insecurity and this isnt something someone on here can help u with. i believe u have to look within yourself and realise he is with you for a reason...hope it helped a little
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reader, jay12toes  +, writes (8 June 2008):
 ok just take it easy, if theres no signs of him cheating then most likely hes not, so theres nothing to be worried about. but if you keep up the distrust he will get upset. your the one he wants to be with so relax.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2008): i know what you mean i also seen my mother having bad experiences,if you really love your boyfriend you have to learn to trust him,its VERY difficult i know especially in the world we are living in today but he you should know your boyfriend well if he asures you that he wont do anything to hurt you trust him,thats what love is all about trusting the other person,maybe hes just busy or going through alot tell him what you feel in a polite conversation,throough communication you get alot....sorry if my advice sounds corny....
hope i helped.take care
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