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anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and i haven't been together very long but i sent him a text yday saying I didn't feel like he really cared for me like he used to. To this i got no reply so today i sent him a text asking him for his address so i could send his stuff back. I'm devastated and just wanted him to tell me he cared and now we've split up pretty much. Now what do i do, please help! I'm thinking of calling him to talk but dont wanna look a bit bunnyboilerish!
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reader, we-are-nowhere  +, writes (12 June 2009):
 take a little break , taht is what i think , dont call now , even if it is all that you want to do , give 2 weeks or something then call and see how it is ,
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reader, rcn  +, writes (12 June 2009):
 You want to call him? Why so he can keep treating you less than you deserve to be treated? There is someone out there waiting for you, but you're not going to find him chasing after the wrong person.
Now, starting tomorrow, when you get up and get ready in the morning or afternoon, whenever you wake up, I want you to look in the mirror and give yourself 3 compliments.
Reason to start with that is, giving you reassurance makes you dependent on someone to artificially validate who you are. For example. If I ran into you, stopped and complimented you on your eyes, or anything else below the eyes, but since minors visit this site, we'll leave it at that. If I were to give you that compliment. You might smile, maybe giggle, or say thank you. But when you walked away, you'd be questioning the compliment, and finding a way to think of me as being full of it.
This is why it's important for you to see yourself in a different light. It doesn't matter how many people think your beautiful, or kind, or care about you as long as you're not doing the same for yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2009): Texting was extrememly inproper and not a good way of going about doing this. you need to call him and talk to him.
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reader, Saratw +, writes (12 June 2009):
 he doesn't seem to care for you much sorry, i think you should get out more and find someone who will
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2009): A common mistake us women make, is that we assume men are like women and they just ARE NOT.
We want to know everything NOW. We put everything on the table and if someone takes a while to take it... we assume they don't want it and then frantically try to take it back. It's dramatic, and that's a huge turn off for guys.
Have you guys actually talked and split?
Sometimes guys take a while to respond. I've had guys take a full day because they past out while we were talking and then forgot when they were at work... but when the text me back it's to grab dinner or see a movie.
It's just how they work. You shouldn't be paranoid or neurotic about it. Don't keep pushing him, you're provoking a break-up.
And don't do things via text. It's hard to read what peoples intentions are really. You may be coming across a completely different way than you intended.
Call him, apologize for freaking out, and ask if you can cook him dinner or something to make up for it.
If he was really losing interest, at least you'll know when he says no.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2009): Oh I dont think it really matters at this point what you may appear to be
In my opinion texting important things like this isn't a good way to deal with things or find answers we seek, its always better to call instead.
You know guys are dumb too, by saying you felt like he didn't care prolly insulted him or maybe he had enough of whatever situation u both had. So he didn't read between the lines, plus it was in a txt. Oh well.
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