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writes: What is the best way to make my ex reply to me? I know and have already accepted the fact that my bf and I are no longer together. The problem is he has stuff he said he will get from me and I have some cash he agreed to keep for me as savings before. He was very serious when he said we will sort this out.We broke up almost 2 months ago because of a big fight. After a month, I contacted him about his stuff that he should pick up from my sister. And he said I can keep this stuff if i want to but he needs to give me back my money. He said he MUST! I said to him i am not interested to keep his stuff and he should really drop by to get it. Not from me but from my sister. Coz i actually don't want to see his things as it reminds me of him and it still hurts (i still love him to be honest).A week passed and for two nights we exchanged texts about my problem with my sister to which his last message was "do you have any plans in your mind? let me know if you have one?". I ignored the question and went on to talk about my sister to which he didn't reply.Believing that we have become friends again. I askedhim the next day if he could already pick up his things. I tried to call but he wont answer and he never replied to my text.I want closure to our relationship and I don't want him to get back to me one day asking about these things or telling me that he already wants to give me back my money. Is it wrong on my part to want a closure by us exchanging what we ought to give back to each other? What if he doesn't cooperate and why? Will i ever get my money back? He said to me a hundred times before that it is wrong to take money from someone else ( that's according to his religion). But how else can I can it back from him? I am tired of this and I want this thing solved NOW!What should I say to him so he will be compelled to reply and sort this out? We always treat each other with respect and he was never rude to me so I can't just send him a disrepectful message either. How can I ask for the money with grace? Pls help me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2009): Text messages are deceiving.
It doesn't sound like he's trying to keep your money. Sounds like something came up, or his busy.
I would call him and leave him a friendly message without any drama and tell him you're going to be in his area on _______(whatever day) and you'd like to drop off his stuff and pick up the check.
If you want to get it done, then you should do it. Don't rely on him to. His stuff probably isn't that important to him if he said you could keep it, and maybe it's a pain in the ass to get the money. Maybe he spent it and is trying to come up with it before getting his stuff. I've totally done that to people and dropped off the face of the earth until I had the money back.
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