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anonymous
writes: Hi i've been in a relationship for over 3 yrs with a guy i really really love. He loves me as well. We live in different cities and cant meet on a daily basis but talk for over 3 hrs a day.....I do not have any past-he's the first guy in my life. He had a girlfriend before me for 8 months. i trust him completely yet i am very insecure of her. He's still in touch with her sort of and they chat online once in a while(its always she who takes the initiative-she's in a different country) but she keeps saying stuff like how she misses him. i ask him to not keep contact but i know he can't ever be that rude to anyone as to ignore them. Even the girls in his friend circle make me feel scared....Please help me. I know my insecurities are mainly cause of the distance. I need advice on how to make our bond stronger and lose the insecurity i feel when any girl is involved.
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reader, we-are-nowhere  +, writes (10 July 2009):
 just left my bf cause of the same reason basically , thing is he has been with me for 8 months and her for 4 years before me . look keeping on thinking about it will lead u nowhere , tell him all you fell and how it makes u feel insecure and all that and whenever that really gets to you jst remember this .. 4 years .. 8 months and i'm sure if she made a move he will tell her he is commited to you it is not his fault so dont do anything u'll regret
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reader, shellie203  +, writes (9 July 2009):
you are his girlfriend 3yrs is a long time and me as a female wouldn;t let his ex or any other female make me feel insecure i know u may think bc of the distance and stuff your always wondering what he is doing but try not to if anything is going on it will come out but for now just remember that you are his girlfriend and who he loves and talk to him and tell him how you feel 3rs is a long time to let some ex girl mess up! so dont! ur his women not them!
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reader, jaime90  +, writes (9 July 2009):
 you have been with him for 3 years, and he was with her for 8 months. obviously there was a reason they are not together and why he has stayed with you for so long. if it bothers you so much tell him how much it would mean to you if he would not talk to her. or even tell her not to talk inappropriately.
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