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writes:Dear cupid..please help im in need for love...im so empty..and i also have an anorexic friend that i wanna help..what should i do?
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reader, Blue_Angel0316  +, writes (1 January 2009):
 Talk to you friend and let her know that you care and in showing your concern you can fill the gap in your loneliness. Helping others usually tends to take the focus off of oneself and places it on the person they are trying to help.
I am not sure of you whole story hon but I know for fact that your friend is in a very terrible place in her life. Anorexia is a serious disease and can be life threatening. People who have this disease don't always recognize how bad off they really are.
You are showing great courage to stand by your friend. In knowing this you should have a good self-esteem boost. You love your friend enough to care and that is heartwarming in it's own right. She is LUCKY to have a friend like you who wants to help.
I suggest that you find something you two can do together like going to the movies or making cookies. Pick out some music and start an exercise program together. Walking is a great stressbuster and for some reason it can make you feel calmer. It has to do with the chemicals in the brain called endorphines.
Walking and other exercise keep the body in better shape. They both will help to release these endorphins, refferred to as Nature's Happy Drugs. The afster you walk the more endorphins are released, even though a slow walk will still give you benefit. This is a great mood altering simulus, without the worry of side affects.
If you can get your friend to talk to her family about her problem, this perhaps can help her by giving her a bigger support system for this potentially life threating disease.
Do alot of things on the outside with her if you can. Playing basketball, bicycling, roller blading,and other outside sports are some things you can try. There is also walking in a beautiful park, the mall or other senic place helps to lift your spirits and can alter ones mood.
Try reassuring your friend that she is great and you are worried about her. Be her friend and don't push. Let her talk to you and confide, but make sure you have someone to talk to about all of this so it doesn't become to much on you. After all you are only 13 and even an adult can have problems coping with your situation with your friend.
You will begin to realize that someone else's problem might be a bit worse than yours and you will be grateful for that. For yourself you need to have someone to talk to who can give you needed support and it seems you are in need of some attention.
You didn't elaborate on your situation but I was 13 once too and felt like the ugly duckling. I felt rejected and alone. My heart was in a state that it seemed I would never have someone to love me. My parents were seperated and at 10 my Mother's health took her away to live in a different city. I was confused and way too stressed.
Going back to when I was at 10 years of age struggling to stay home with my Dad who frequently worked away from home. I stayed with my brother and his family, my sister and her family, my neighbor(our landlord and good friend),another sister, back to my Dad and to visit Mom now and then. This continued until I was 13 and it had already devastated my life.
Being a teen I realized later in life, was a hard road to travel with so much pillar to post living. Keeping me confused and that feeling of lonliness that just wouldn't go away. I was such a shy little thing, quiet and withdrawn. I had a kind heart and was very gentile. I was sad and lonely, hurting because I didn't know where to turn.
I finally starting hanging out with a girl up the street from me who turned out to be my BEST FRIEND and in long term was the closest friend I ever had. She passed away last year from a drug overdose and it saddened my heart, and brought me to tears. I was like you and helped her thru alot of troubles in her life. The saddest part was I didn't know she had passed away until over a year after her death. It broke my heart.
I who was always lonely and sad found a way to always care for others. I am a caregiver, I have been taking care of people all my life. I love doing it because it makes me feel like I am doing something good with my life. I can't fix everything and sometimes I can fix nothing but I am still there trying. I found love for others and begin to feel the love that came back to me in return.
It's normal to feel a little out of place hon, the early teen years you are going to be experiencing alot of changes. Your hormones are going to be a big part of that. What you have to do is get something going for yourself and keeps you motivated. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF. Care about others aand you WILL help make this world a better place.
If I can do anything to help I will do my best.
Love from your heart and you WiLL find love in return,
Don't forget to talk to someone about your problems, I don't want you to be depressed and feeling alone.
SMILE! GOD LOVES YOU!
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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reader, pietry  +, writes (1 January 2009):
 It's a normal feeling that you have, everybody has this need for love. But be sure you are not paying a too high price for love that you might regret laterIf you can help your friend go ahead and do it.
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