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writes:Ok I can't handle it anymore! I am 17 and I have just finished my first year of college (this is high school for people that live in America) and there's this teacher he is super attractive he is in his mid to late 20s. Since the first day I met him I fell for him. At first it was just a little crush that I thought would fade away in a few weeks time. But it didn't! Especially as every day I would see him because he was a teacher for two of my subjects. Whenever I'm around him I become shy and quite nervous and it's really noticeable how nervous I am. And the fact that I am usually not a shy person makes it worse. I just feel the need that I have to be with him. I don't want to have these feelings towards my teacher but I can't stop having these feelings towards him. So I'm not very clever, so I struggle allot in school, don't get me wrong I do work really hard but I find school so difficult ever since I was in primary school. Any ways because I struggle allot, this teacher knows how hard I find school so he is always coming round my desk to help me even when I don't ask! I become super nervous around him, I stutter, I shake, I reduce eye contact with him. I feel like such a fool around him but I can't help it. I see him notice how odd I seem to be behaving. I feel he knows I have a crush on him. Ok so I loveeeee sports and this teacher also happens to be my sports teacher. Sports is what I'm amazing at I love being active and competitive. But because he's my sports teacher I don't show of my passion for sports especially When we are running around the sports field because I fear he's looking at me so I put less effort in leading to him thinking I'm being lazy which I'm not. In class I can't concentrate i'm looking him in the eyes but I'm not listening to what he's saying. I feel that he knows I like him because of the way I behave around him, compared to the way I behave around other teachers. I think about him everyday and thinking about him makes me smile. We have broke off from college for the summer holidays and not seeing him is killing me. I want summer to be over so I can see him on my secound year of college. I miss him, allot. But in another Sence I don't want to see him. Because theese feelings are wrong I can't love him because he's my teacher. I feel wrong for liking him. Is he aware I fancy him? How can I get over him? Are there any people out there who fancy their teacher too? It would be great to get a response from a teachers perspective.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2016): Pretty much everyone has a crush on a teacher at school or college and in a few years time you will probably look back and laugh at yourself for fancying him. He would be very unwise to date one of his current or past students and may well have a girlfriend or wife that you don't even know about. I think the best thing to do is to accept you have a crush but also accept it's never going to come to anything and just concentrate on your studies (and boys around your own age) for now.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (10 August 2016):
 Almost everyone has a crush on a teacher at some point, but it always blows over unless someone makes an inappropriate move.You're not wrong to have a crush on him, but you *have* to make it fade because you need to focus on your education when you go back. Don't waste your chances at college over a teacher you won't see again when you leave.When you think about him, change your train of thought, every single time. If the thoughts keep popping up, distract yourself. In class, remind yourself that you *need* to do well and talk through the shyness. In sports, use it as a distraction - do your best because you're focusing on that and not him.
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reader, wiseoldman +, writes (10 August 2016):
An actual ex-teacher's perspective: By the time your summer holiday is over and you see him again, I strongly suspect that it will have all blown over, and you'll be wondering what in Heaven's name all the fuss was about. In 1985 I was in my very late 20s and teaching at a UK stage school. One of my 17 year old female students fell for me. I will freely admit now with sincere regret that my subsequent conduct would not have passed muster. However, as the dance students in this particular establishment were being trained to (among other things) dance topless at the Crazy Horse (opened in 1951) and the Moulin Rouge (opened in 1886- eighteen, not a misprint), two venues in Paris, and the age of consent in the UK was 16, perhaps I was not a complete rat. (In 2016, over 30 years away I'm still not sure how I feel about that final statement.) Anyway (having made certain to wait until I was no longer grading her) we carried on for a month or so, she decided she didn't love me, we had A Long Chat, and I stood aside, in a gentlemanly fashion, telling her there would be plenty of other men. She's no longer dancing, got married long ago, and has grown-up children. I haven't seen her in decades.So- and this will be very difficult and you have every iota of my sympathy- just take things easy, and do nothing. He's probably well aware you fancy him, rather like a lot of other of his students do, have, and will over the years. He's not going to risk his job or his freedom carrying on with you. The UK teacher/student law forbidding sex with under 18s was passed in 2001. 'Grownups' (sorry) are used to taking a deep breath and putting lust on the back burner permanently especially when someone so unsuitable (I'm even sorrier for that) presents herself. Maximum penalty is five years imprisonment. Would you visit him?Do you want him to risk that for you?
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