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writes:my mother's sister's husband's brother's daughter. i am in love with her she calls me her second cousin . i really need an answer and she doesn't love me, i am like addicted to her. i know that i cant do that but i cant control my feelings
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reader, Linton +, writes (20 August 2011):
You should feel good about yourself. Your aren't blood relatives, and even if you were it would be no bad thing at second cousin. Here is an article you might want to read. An Association Between Kinship And Fertility of Human Couples. Agnar Helgason, Snaebjoern Palsson, Daniel F. Guobjartsson, Pordur Kristjansson and Karl Stefanson, SCIENCE vol 329 8 February 2008 page 813 It's cheap enough. Just go to Sciencemag.org. Their experience suggest that second cousins give you the best chance for babies. The critical issue of course is grandchildren; you'd like your own children to do well. They have a graph for that, too. It's a little misleading. What they seem to call second cousin is second cousin "or closer." Second cousin should be half way to "third cousin or closer." They calculate kinship a little differently, which you can read about when you get the article. Make up your own mind, but from what I see second cousin is pretty close to idea biolocically. So keep the faith. Life is full of changes. Show her the article. See what she thinks.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (20 August 2011):
 It will fade in time. Right now it seems unbearable, but it will fade as you get older and understand how to move on. It is a mature thing to be able to control your feelings and not let them develop for someone who is unavailable. It is hard, but possible, and you learn how to with age and experience. You will get over her.
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reader, Kyle007 +, writes (20 August 2011):
Anyone that I have a crush on that does not love me back and has explicitly said so is off my list. What I mean is I don't socialize with them. Its that simple. Why should I torture myself?If you can't control your feelings you can at least control your actions. The feelings will follow eventually.
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