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writes:I'm in love with my best friend.she's dating someone else which really hurts me. But now her boyfriend went to another country, she told me about her sorrows which actually hurts me too. Now she's single and i don't wanna talk to her and meet her. every time i here a love or emo song the pain just pierce through my heart. i need help i cant stand it any longer T_T
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2008): to Haruka62442
thanks for the story, i really appreciated it.
to iateadonut
I've known her about a year or more now. I've fell in love with her around half that year. Thanks for the advices
to Frank B Kermit
Thanks for the tip I'll sure be doing those!
I just cant wait to go back to Canada and leave her. it will all be over.
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reader, Haruka62442  +, writes (17 July 2008):
hmmm, i actually fell for the guy i like BECAUSE he was their for me when i was going through a lot and helped me talk things over with him and stuff.
I dont know, from my situation i would suggest the opposite but i havent had much luck with him romanticly. but i did fall for him after being my "therapist"
i know the a lot of the women who had Freud as therapist ended up falling in love with him.
You could try to take a more active roll in helping her, as long as it dosent hurt you.
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reader, iateadonut  +, writes (17 July 2008):
How long have you known this girl? How long have you been in love with her? Without having all the information, I think you better kiss her. If she kisses back, great. If not, you're going to have to deal with letting go.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (17 July 2008):
 Stop listening to her problems. You are becoming her therapist, and she can not develop romantic feelings for you.
If you want to make her have the chance at having feelings for you, you need to make her feel like a lover, not a mother.
Here is my ten year rule:
that in ten years' time, chances are that the people currently in your life will no longer be there. You have nothing to lose by trying to see if there is a potential relationship with her. Friendships between men and women are time limited in the long run.
I did a lecture on how to turn a friend into a lover, and the biggest thing is to stop allowing her to experience negative emotions when she is with you (listening to her problems) because she connects those feelings TO YOU.
This is why she is more willing to date a stranger than a long time friend.
Stop being friends with her and pursue her as a lover which means that when she starts talking about her problems cut her off and GO DO SOMETHING FUN with her.
Here is the link to the lecture I did, and you can read the reviews.
http://www.lulu.com/content/2440004
The reviews also have clear cut tactics you might want to start employing.
-Frank B Kermit
Author of From Friends To Lovers: Stop Being Her Emotional Cookie Man
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