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writes: hi im in love with one girl, but i dont believe i will ever be with her. Its just i dont think she feels the same and never will, no matter how hard i try but i like her cousin and she loves me is it wrong to try things with her cousin when im still in love with her? what shall i do?thankyou for any1 who can help i dunno what to do lol im only 16!
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reader, bex108 +, writes (23 November 2006):
if your only going to try things with her cousin to be close to her then i think it is wrong, however if you truly like her cousin maybe you should try it out you never know you might grow to love her cousin if that is infact your actual feelings for her. dont forget your only younge there will be someone else that you will love and will love you back.
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reader, Sally R. Cinnamon +, writes (23 November 2006):
 you should definately not go out with this girl's cousin if you are doing it in any way to get closer to the girl you really love. be honest with yourself. do you want to try and make a go of things with the cousin for who she is? you say you like her, but do you like her enough to go out with her even if she wasn't the cousin of this other girl? the cousin cares for you and you should respect these feelings and not abuse them for your own advantage.
having said all that, it isn't necessarily wrong to date her cousin. if you are firmly decided to get over your feelings for the first girl, and give a relationship a fair go with her cousin, then you don't need to feel bad about it. it all depends on what the real reasons are for dating her.
it sounds like you might be a little confused... it might be a good idea to give it a little time before you try things with her cousin. this way you can move on a bit from the first girl. it might also be a good idea to do things slowly, do a few things to get to know her cousin better, to be more sure of how much you like her for who she is.
if you are in doubt, just take your time, slow down, think it over. and if your feelings for the first girl are really too strong, and what is really driving you, then its probably best to keep your distance from both girls... at least for a while.
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