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writes:I think I'm still in love with my ex.I had a very quick relationship with him where nothing really happened, after many months of flirting and becoming close. After we broke up, We still carried on like we were going out, So nothing really went anywhere, meanwhile, I was starting to fall for this other guy who was performing with me in a show, I wanted to tell him I loved him But I felt like I had a commitment to my ex, because we were still acting like we were together.After a long while, I gave up on pretending that I had no interest in this new guy, and I told my ex I loved him ( the new guy ), My ex told me it was my decision and we would have to move on at some point, So we did, he's been flirting with this other girl, and shes in a no progress relationship with him like I was.Now I'm going out with this new guy, who I love more than anything, He's so sweet and understanding and makes me laugh, But I don't want to fall in love with him, I know I will soon but sometimes I just want my ex to be there and hug me instead of him. I'm always envious of this new girl he seems to like, I don't know what to do, help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou, you've really helped a lot :)But when I got asked out by this new guy, My ex told me he still loved me and always phoned me right up until I said yes to the new guy. Then as soon as I started going out with him, he gave up. Still slightly confused, But thankyou for helping a bit :) x
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reader, Lisa1970 +, writes (12 April 2010):
HiThis does sound like a peculiar relationship, it sounds to me like he prefers to have girls as friends then lovers but enjoys intimacy too. He may enjoy the company and listening skills of females but might prefer love from the same sex. Or he might just be very scared and nervous about taking the next step. However if you want a relationship that is going to go somewhere then i suggest you concentrate on this new relationship. If your ex said that you both have to move on, its obvious he is not going to beg you to go back to him which suggests although you may be close, he does not love you. Have you asked him why your relationship never went any further? It may be worth talking to him and finding out why you could never be more than intimate friends.You need to come to terms with the fact that you will only ever be friends and treasure that as true friendships are very hard to come by. There is no reason why you still can't be friends and hug each other now and again even with your new partners, if your new partners are any good, they will understand and accept that you have this friendship. Maybe you need to take a break from both men and decide which one it is you really want and then fight for him.
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reader, misscali  +, writes (12 April 2010):
well to me it sounds like your confused if you still have feelings for your ex..you need to either step back or break it off with the new guy..because its not fair of you to lead him on knowin that you dnt have feelings for him like that..you need to learn to not to move forward unless your over your past..or if not that let him know you still got feelings for yo ex and you dnt want to hurt him but if he pursues then thats on him sweety..
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