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writes:I am in love with a married woman .How can I stop thinking about her so much. She is driving me crazy..I love her but will never leave my wife. Please help me!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2010): Sorry you are in this dilemna. Why can't you stop thinking about the other married woman? Has she told you she has the same feelings for her? What do you find annoying with your wife?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2010): You should really search yourself and ask yourself a few questions. Why did you have an affair in the first place, because if you truly "loved" your wife or wanted her you wouldn't have done it, so what are your reasons for straying.Why do you think you "love" the lady you are with? At what levels do you connect with her? Is it just sex? If you didn't have sex with her, would you still feel the way you do about her? Why wouldn't you leave your wife? because of the agony with divorce, because you have kids? Have you been honest with the married woman?? How does she feel about you? Has she said she wouldn't leave her husband or would?? But, all in all you need to really think about this. If you won't leave your wife and you say you love this other woman, because of the love you have for the other woman you need to let her go, because if she loves you it's probably hurting her very much. Don't be selfish with this. Affairs are hard enough. So, 1. Why wouldn't you leave your wife if you truly loved another woman and not your wife. 2. What are your reasons for loving this other woman? 3. If you can't let go of this other woman, you need to rethink the reasons you are staying with your wife. 4. Why did you go to this other woman in the first place? 5. If you love the other woman and will not leave your wife, let her go. Nobody wants to hurt, but don't be selfish, it will hurt a lot more if you let this go on. 6. If you stay with your wife, you need to figure out everything you can to make sure this doesn't happen again. Are you insecure about yourself? Has your wife changed? ect.
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reader, shania  +, writes (29 October 2010):
 You want something you cannot have and thats why your married lover seems so alluring. If you cant leave your wife, then im afraid its not love you are feeling for your mistress but good old fashioned lust...and that passes eventually.
In the meantime,you will have to go cold turkey and forget about her.
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reader, Sravs  +, writes (29 October 2010):
I think you are expecting the support to your wrong thought. Infact yourself know this thought is wrong. But you want some support to do the mistake. If you cant leave your wife ...what does that means ? you too know it is just an attraction towards her...its not love yaar....
If your wife also feels the same feel about any person..what is ur feeling then ? So deviate your mind from such kind of thoughts and spend more time with your family.
Good Luck
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reader, syrop  +, writes (29 October 2010):
it is not love it is lust. why don't you want to leave your wife?? simply because you love her!! and remember any guy cannot love two women at the same time. i think you should go away from her, avoid her and spend the most of your time with your wife. like arrange some candle light romantic dinner to bring back the spark that your wedding has lose i guess and that you are actually looking in that other woman. try talking to your wife that you want to make you guys life just life before :- romantic and sensous
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reader, deadwalk +, writes (29 October 2010):
 Hey brother before I tell u let me know have u ever had sex with that another married women?
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