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writes:I am 20 years old. I have been with my 40 year old boyfriend for two years. About six months ago, I have met this 34 year old man and I fell I love with him. He's married. He is a friend o my family and so is his wife. They got two small kids together. He doesn't know that I have a boyfriend. I can't wait for him to leave his wife though I doubt that he ever will. We see each other every day, we're always on the phone. Every day I fall in love with him all over again. Please help me! I need to decide whether I should break up my boyfriend of two years or leave this married man alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2007): Wanna know why 40-year-old married men mess with teenagers?
Because teenage girls are still young & immature enough to actually believe the men will leave their wives. Grown women usually know better, and they won't waste years of their lives on these men anymore.
These 40-year-old men can get their hands on an easy young girl who is dazzled by the simple fact that the man was born a longer time ago. The same guy usually couldn't get that girl in a million years if he was her own age.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2007): I think that you should not consider dating the married man. It will never work out. All he would do is play the same games he is playing with her, with you. And if you think the older man is too old for you, let him know so that you can find someone else. You don't want to waste your time with a man that old anyway. Trust me from experience. I have dated this married man for almost four years and the relationship has not gotten anywhere. He hasn't filed for his divorce or anything. He thinks that I am going to keep on waiting for him. He didn't tell me that he was married. I believe I deserve better than to be the other woman, even though they have been separated for awhile before I came along. You deserve better, too. Don't settle for less than the best. You are very young to be an old man's slave and so am I. I am just 27 years old myself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2007): You will never learn!!! Knowing that he's married, why would you get involved? Something is wrong with you. Join a sport at, get involved in school activities and/orfunctions. Does your parents know about this?
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reader, theothergirl +, writes (20 August 2007):
theothergirl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI love the married man and we've been together now for 10 months. Sometimes I don't even think of him as someone who's married and some other time I do. Its not that I don't know that what I am doing is wrong but I wanna make myself happy. Yes I am still with my boyfriend and I am doing my best for him to never find out. After all, 2 years is a lot for me to put in a relatioship and ruin it this way. I just lovew both of them and I don't c y not keeping it that way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2007): It's not LOVE you just want the thrill of having someone elses man. THese men are not worthy of a family and you are just a young body for him to have sex with. That makes you feel so special does it you could be any young girl for him to use. Think of others not just yourself and get yourself a life. I life with a real man and maybe you need to get yourself a proper education. Teens of today think that being uneducated drunken whore is a great way of life. THERE IS MORE TO LIFE have some self respect!
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reader, theothergirl +, writes (30 May 2007):
theothergirl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI am just in love and trust me, when u r, u don't think about nothingh or anyone else but the person that ur heart belongs to or the person whom u think that your heart belongs to. Whether I might get hurt or not, I ain't worried about it now. I know I will regret what I just said, but my friend, check this out! The guy makes me feel like there's no one else in the whole freaking world. Now tell me why would I wanna give that up?! And when it comes to my boyfriend of two years, he is just stupid. Y? Because there are so many little details that could show him that I don't really wanna be with him anymore.
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reader, DV1 +, writes (30 May 2007):
 Wait a minute, this is rich. Let me see if I understand this: your boyfriend has been acting up? Your boyfriend? Good way to get the attention off of yourself. You're just as guilty, if not more, than he is. He's not a toy to be played with. You don't deserve him, and should break up with him immediately, so he can find someone who isn't going behind his back, and cares enough to respect him and love him.
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reader, theothergirl +, writes (30 May 2007):
theothergirl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, I understand that you guys have almost the same advice for me. Thanks anyway! Y'all have been very helpful. The thing is that even though he is married, I just ain't ready to leave him yet. Since I am in love with him and also, my boyfriend of two years has been acting up lately. I might "close my nose up and drink the smelly water". Just for the sake of love. And whether he wants to leave his wife or not, that's on him.
Thank you guys for the advice!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2007): This man WILL NOT leave his wife and family for you. Why do you even get yourself in a situation like this? He already commited adultry with you, if he did. Why be the other woman? You already have a boyfriend, work it out with him. Does anyone know about this beside the obvious people?You are you only 20 and you're still "wet" behind the ears. As well as naive. He will not leave his wife. Use your common sense.
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reader, candy00s  +, writes (28 May 2007):
 I cant see this married man will ever leave his wife for you.
Is he willing to tear his family apart and hurt so many people?
I think you should stop anything happening with you and this married bloke.
Concentrate on making your relationship with your boyfriend work, or forget about them both and move on.
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reader, DV1 +, writes (28 May 2007):
It seems like you're willing to hurt a whole lot of people. You're willing for him to lose his wife, his kids, and possibly everything, just to be with you? That's extremely selfish. That's not even mentioning that fact that you're willing to discard your boyfriend like a piece of old laundry, after he's given you two years of his life!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2007): My advice, i think you should leave this married guy alone. If you do decide to go ahead with it you could be in for alot of pain and dissapointment.
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (28 May 2007):
 personally i think you should leave this married man alone and stick with your boyfriend of two years.
If you did decide to leave him and persue this married guy you could find youself waiting around forever. Married guys invariably never leave their wives, so consequently you turn into the bit on the side or mistress, however you want to term it. In other words he gets his cake and eats it, seeing you when he can slip away, then going back to his wife after, which is no life for anyone.
Leave this one alone, it is not worth all the aggrevation and heartache it will bring, i would stick with your boyfriend and forget about this married guy.
Good luck x
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