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writes:I have known this guy for 8yrs and within this year he and I have gotten closer. I only see him at work and when he walks in he puts his stuff down and hugs and kisses me. Then after work he walks me out, and then we kiss a little bit more.. If you know what I mean. I wrote him a note last night and gave it to him, I asked in it, about us and hoped that I meant more to him, because of the kissing. I want to know but not hurt his feelings or ruin the friendship. So after work, we walked outside and he got close to me, we kissed with tongue the first kiss then with a stop in between before he went inside, he pulled me closer and kissed again. Also he used his hand, and brushed my hair to the side of my head. This has been going on for a few months now every chance we get when we see one another. So my question what do I do next time. I have never been kissed this way before. I like it alot though.
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reader, Royofthe Rovers  +, writes (28 May 2007):
 You havent mentioned what he said about the note/letter you gave to him. You need to be clear on where you stand in his life as your emotions have become involved. The previous post had a very good point to whether this man is married?
You have a good friendship so communication shuld not be a problem. Ask him where he sees the two of you and get feedback as to how he feels for you and the letter you wrote to him. Any other answer, other than a truthful response will tell you he has other motives so be aware that his intentions may differ from yours.
You need to do this quickly as the longer you prolong it the more your emotions will become entangled and confused towards him. If he loves or cares for you as a friend he will be upfront and honest to how he feels about you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2007): My first question to you is why is this guy kissing you at work and not asking you out on a date? I don't mean to be harsh, but he sounds like he is looking for a bed mate and he certainly is not giving you a chance at a relationship at work.
That and the fact that you have known him for 8 years sends warning signals in my brain....I feel there is something you are not telling us.
Is this guy married? If he is it does not matter how close you think you are, he will not leave his wife or live in relationship for you, only when he is good and ready which means probably never. If you want to be the kind of woman who helps to errode a marriage and a family that belongs only to him then continue letting him kiss and fondle you in stolen moments, because that is a taste of what is to come, stolen moments, heart ache and worse wasted time.
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