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I'm in love with a married friend.

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Question - (30 October 2007) 2 Answers - (Newest, 31 October 2007)
A male Ireland age 51-59, anonymous writes:

I have been close friends and work colleague with a woman for many years but my love for her has now become a problem because I think of little else these days.

We spend time at work together and meet socially as friends.

To make matters more difficult she is flirtatious with guys and I find myself very jealous! I know she has had liasons with work colleagues but though deep down I could never tell her how I feel, nor do I think it would help, this is killing me slowly.

I am single male and she has a couple of lovely children and a good husband, and though she doesnt behave as she should on occasion with other guys, there has been nothing of that nature with me.

Though I know nothing will happen its as though my feelings are trapped and cannot escape and now so much so that I am thinking of a way to break away from her or at least cool our friendship. This will not be easy given I will have not have given her a reason for this.

I am so consumed by this now I could just use some input on my situation and maybe someone has had a similair problem.

May I thank anyone in advance for any help or words they can give.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2007):

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Thank you for all your input.

For the record I would never ruin a marriage or get involved with a married woman and this is the frustrating part.

My morals are in order but this does not stop me wanting her!

The answer is carry on and live with it I guess and maybe I will meet someone available and move on.

Its just good to share and hear opinion.

Thanks again.

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A male reader, eddie Canada +, writes (30 October 2007):

eddie agony auntDon't be confused. This is not what you want to hear but I'll be honest. Take your nose out of her business. She is obviously a cheater and a rotten wife. Why would you want a woman who does this to her husband and kids? Her integrity is shot.

How do you gage friendship. You don't consider her a friend, you consider a person of interest for a relationship. That is not a friend. If she was a friend there would be no need for this question. She's supposed to be her husbands friend.....correct? She sounds, by your description to be starved for attention. Your words, "she has a couple of lovely children and a good husband".... What she needs is a conscience. Do not be part of this evil deed and contribute to this mess. She is not up for grabs. If she doesn't want to do the right hting, you should.

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