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writes:I am 17 years old. Ive been secretly seeing this guy that has a girlfriend, for a year now. I totally understand how wrong it is, but my emotions wont let me leave him. Ive tried and tried to leave him, and one time i even did, but a few weeks go by and he calls me, and says he misses me, and of course i miss him too, so we continue to have this thing going on. I told him a few times, that i couldn't do this anymore, it makes me feel so guilty and he says okay, but i don't know, the relationship just never ends. Hes the second guy that Ive had sex with, i had to end the relationship with my first because i moved far away, and now Ive been with this guy for a year. So pretty much i'm in love with a guy that has a girlfriend, and i'm trying to get over him, but i don't know how. Who ever can give me advice, thanks, it means a lot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah you guys are all right, im just going to tell him how i feel and then just end the relationship! thanks!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2011): This is not love.
This is "infatuation" and you need to get help to deal with it.
If he really had anything good for you, he'd not be with her as well as you.
Tell her, leave him, take care of yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2011): I understand that you care about him but the thing is, this has been going on for a year and he hasn't left his girlfriend.
If this guy felt as strongly as you do, he would make you his girlfriend, not his bit on the side. He is being very selfish, keeping you on the side lines while he has his real girlfriend as well.
You need to give him an ultimatum. You can't go on being second best to her because it's just going to keep hurting you. If he chooses her, then you have your answer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2011): Speak to him about your feelings for him. he may like you and be waiting for you to make a move.
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reader, BeautifulCapricorn +, writes (12 January 2011):
just leave him ... he wont leave his girlfriend for you so why are you with him ... dont waste your time, you could be with someone who respects you enough to not make you his side chick .. remember you deserve better than that
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