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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for a long time now. I have stuck by him through a lot of problems he has had. He quit his job and is still unemployed. He drinks daily and has made it clear there is no way he will marry me anytime soon. I'm in love with him. He makes me laugh, he can be very sweet and attentive. The problem here is recently a younger guy let me know how interested he is in me. He has a stable job, no drugs or alcohol. He seems to be a very nice guy. I would never cheat on my guy but I have found myself thinking "what if" I was dating him. Does that mean I am truly unhappy inside?
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reader, JuJuBeans +, writes (16 April 2009):
I think you should separate the two issues -- 1) do you want to break up with your boyfriend? and after that's settled, 2) do you want to date this new guy
You need to resolve the first relationship before jumping into a second one.
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reader, nickie123 +, writes (15 April 2009):
 you even said it.
you aren't happen if you stay with your recent boyfriend that will effect you inn the future you have the control not him so i think that you should decide happiness or sadness i think that you wouldn't find happiness in your boyfriend
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2009): Loving a man does not a good life make!!!So Homer Simpson is parked on your sofa with a beer not spending eight hours a day looking for employment and promising no marriage! I think the most honorable item in that list is the promise of no marriage soon. That's actually good news to me.I say you take his Non-Marriage-Proposal, say yes to it and be glad. Loving an alcoholic is a slow-drip poison to your happiness. Go get that other guy -
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (15 April 2009):
Yes. It means you know what an idiot you are being for staying with your boyfriend.
it's all very well being dramatic and saying "But I LOVE him!" but you know you are not happy and would be better off without him.
Use this as the kick up the bum you need and dump your boyfriend. Then you can get your head straight for a couple of weeks and go out with this new guy.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2009): i dont think u are turely unhappy inside. i think ur just like every other girl and u wonder, what if? if u love your b/f and want to spend the rest of ur life with him, stay with him. try to make things work. u know ur b/f. u know what he's like already and how u guys are together and if u love him then things must be good. i've been through this before. i left my b/f who i loved more then anything to be with someone else just because i was curious. when i started something with the new guy i didnt like how things were. i became unhappy and all i could think about is the old guy......anyways, im tring to tell u, if u are happy with ur current bf dont just throw things away bc the other guy and be something completely different then what he really is. why risk something for something that can turn out to be nothing and only leaving u wanting what u used to have(thats what i think)
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