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writes:Hi! Ok this is going to sound very long but I really need the advice! I'm going to be 20 years old in less than 2 months and I have never had a boyfriend before in my life! Let alone kissed a boy. Everytime I'm crushing on some guy, I think I'm in love with this person and we're meant to be together because we're having fun with each other only to find out in a sad way that he's in no way, shape or form interested in me. See I'm a fat girl so I sort of understand why guys are not interested in me,, But recently at work, it happened again, like an idiot, I fell in love again. Well I think I'm in love. But this time I sort of think he likes me back. I don't really know how it started. He always smiles at me, he always calls my name extremely happy when he sees me, he's not scared to stand somewhat close to me(unlike my other crushes, they wouldn't even sit next to me!), he walks around with me, he tells me things that he don't tell others, if I ask him to do something, he'll do it, and there's other things that he does but it's hard to explain it! But yea, my question is, should I make the first move or what for him to? And is I should make the 1st move, how do I go about it? I know that this may seem very kiddie but I have never had a boyfriend before and I really want one and I really think this boy could be my first but I'm so scared of being rejected and hurt. Please someone give me some kind advice!
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reader, Nikki Nikkles  +, writes (6 July 2010):
 He does sound like an extremely nice guy, and not judgemental like the other people you've crushed on.
I'd say really get to know him more... And by that: I mean you only know his good features, right? So of course you like him. But get to know his other, perhaps, more darker features... If you find that you still like him after that, then, hunny: I'd say go for it. It means that his better side shines brighter than his lesser side and you accept who he is. Make sure he gets to know you, too.
That's really all I can say. Good luck!
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reader, RB92  +, writes (6 July 2010):
I realize this is difficult for you given you haven't had a boyfriend, and like you I have a tendancy to just 'fall in love' with people and its horrible when they don't like you back time and time again. It takes a lot of courage normally to make the first move, and I can emphasize that it must be harder for you.
He sounds like a nice guy. It might be worth you just telling him how you feel so if he doesn't you haven't done something too much. And if he simply tells you he doesn't like you, you can continue this fantastic friendship you have going on with him. On the flip side if he does, then you can move on in your own time.
If you need me, just buzz me a message anytime.
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