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writes:i was seeing some guy and then we broke it off basically..seeing each other occassionally. but then i slept with another guy and he found out, going mad at me and saying he didnt sleep with another girl the whole time. i really don't understand why he was saying all this and getting angry at me for it?? even though i'm quite sure he did sleep with other people as this is just his type. this all happened a week ago and since then we've had numerous arguements on the subject over the phone or by text. im 18 and he is 19 years old. i have not seen him since this happened. i can not understand why he is angry. he has text me within the past couple of days saying that he liked me and that i was clearly only after one thing from him. adn today the texts were saying that at this moment in time he didnt want to talk to me (after i'd asked if i could go round and talk) and suggested, sarcastically, that i go see the guy that i had 'cheated' on him with. he then just said forget it all as it is annoying him now! i don't know what he is referring to here. usually i'd take a hint..but i know him and know that if he didnt want to talk to me he simply would not text back. yet everytime i text him he replys straight away! i really need peoples advice on the situation, as i do not know whether he is simply temporarily angry ( although he has no right as we were not going out when this all happened), or whether he really is over it all? but the way i see it, he would never have got annoyed about it in the first place if there were no feelings there! i think this all may have just hurt his pride a bit, as it was through a friend that he found out about it. anyway..sorry this has been so long..its just its a very confusing situation. any feedback will be much appreciated!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2008): "I was seeing some guy and then we broke it off basically..seeing each other occassionally. but then i slept with another guy and he found out, going mad at me and saying he didnt sleep with another girl the whole time?"
You say they you and your boyfriend broke of the relationship, why did you both do that, what when wrong?
But I get confused when you say you were seeing each other? Where you friends, were you sleeping together? Was you just spending less time together, but you were still a couple? I don't understand what kind of relationship you had in the past.
Your boyfriend is angry, he didn't sleep with anyone else, he probably had his chances but he turned the down because he was thinking of you, he probably feels hurt that you couldn't do the same.
Then he finds out from a friend of a friend, you kept this a secret, and then he finds out that other people know and he dosen't. He must be feeling like a fool, you sure did hurt his pride. He must be wondering what kind of relationship has secrets this big. He is damn angry with you, and I suggest you give him time to calm down. Of course he has feelings. He waited for you, he loved you, and he came back to you. But things have changed, he know you had sex, you got naked, with somebody else whilst he sat alone.
You need to appologise for not telling him about it straight away. Text him messages to tell him you understand why he's angry, tell him, your sorry, you love him, and when he's ready he must get in touch... Listen to his ranting and raving, he's angry and he needs to get the anger of his chest. If he loves you, he'll calm down and be ready to talk to you in a civiized manner, and he'll be able to listern to you and what you have to say.
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reader, betty backstabber +, writes (8 August 2008):
 It sounds as though when you broke it off he was still very much into you and he thought that even though you were separated you wouldn't be able to forget him and you would run back to him straight away. I don't know the ins and outs of why you broke it off in the first place, but maybe if it was down to him he wanted to do it to see how much you really liked him? Then when he discovered you'd slept with somebody else it upset him so much because its not what he was expecting and now he still is clinging onto you hence why he wants to text you all the time. He sounds a bit attention seeking if i am honest, maybe you should just cool it a little and stop the texts, because it sounds like you have a tried all you can to sort the situation out and its not getting any better so leave it now and don't continue to text him, if he carries on texting you never the less then you know that he is still very much into you and is simply jealous that you found somebody else. In that case talk to him and get everything out in the open, if he gives you that bullshit of "well im not in the mood to talk right now" again when you want to go down and talk to him, still go down anyway its not like he'll slam the door in your face :)
hope this helped!
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