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anonymous
writes: i've been with my gf for a whole three years and i've had the time of my life. but she gets defensive if i even say his name . she talks to other guys and hugs them and when i ask to see her phone, she changes the subject. i've had a lot of bad relationships and it really hurts to find out my gf was screwing my best friend . i'm really worried about where it's going i don't know what to do . please help me. thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2011): Why are you still with her? Doesnt make sense? Be a man, not only does she not respect you but really a person doesnt cheat period, especially not with a best friend. Just tell her, if she doesnt change and change her behaviour then you cant stay in this relationship because it is her that should be trying to repair the relationship not hiding her phone and being defensive. Get rid of, she only break your heart again.
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reader, Secretlife +, writes (1 January 2011):
Oh man. She is cheating on you with your bestfriend? What kind of friend would do that. I think you need to let her go. She's obvously hiding something from you. I think its just best if you dont be with her. Find you someone that will be faithful and truthful to you. If she isn't hiding anything then why wouldnt she let you see her phone?
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reader, airwaterearthfirebender +, writes (1 January 2011):
Seriously dude? She cheated on you with your best friend? What do you need to know? You can't trust her...period. Beyond that the issue is you and keeping her in the picture. Grow a backbone, or in other words you need to respect yourself and not tolerate this type of treatment. You have reason to doubt her and she won't let you see her phone? Dude, just end it and move on. Have higher standards for yourself and others and I think you will find the quality of your life and relationships that much better. She is untrustworthy and not ready for a relationship. She may or may not be ready for someone else in the future but she has already royally messed up with you. It's done, there is no need to live life this way and with this drama unless you are choosing to, in which case the only person to blame at that point is yourself.
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