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male
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I have been engaged to my girlfriend for around 8 years and dating for some more. She always says: next year, this is the year, in few months and finally once again next year. Also gives excuses to delay it, you name them. If I ask her about her feelings and assuring her that I will be ok if she wants to break up she gets mad and swears she loves me but I have to "trust" her and wait (another year). Has selfsteem soomething to do with this? I have always supported her in anything she decides about her life even if that puts in risk my goals. What else can she possibly be afraid of if I am not imposing restrictions? Befoe saying "say no sometimes" you must know I say no to things I consider unjust for example. I am turnign 30 in 1 year and a half while she is 35 already! and this is starting to sound as a bad comedy show.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2011): Ideas:
If the relationship has been going well for this long, she might think marriage may jinx the stability of being boyfriend and girlfriend?
You are 28 years old and she is 35. She may be afraid of the social judgment that comes with marrying a man that much younger than her. She might not want to be perceived as a cradle robber by her family and friends. Perhaps there are people in her life that disapprove of her relationship with you and you just don't know about it.
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