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writes:I am 21 years old and I have a cousin living in the same city with me. My cousin's husband, who's 30, is a very sweet guy and I always feel he's too good for my cousin. I had a crush on him ever since I met him, and I think he has feelings for me too... because although my cousin's a good wife, I'm much more well-read and prettier than her. Whenever we are at a family gathering, he's treating me too nice. By saying that I mean he's always impatient with his wife, but when he talks to me he becomes a totally different person. We are in a traditional family so we all know nothing should ever happen between us, but I feel the tension's getting stronger and stronger. I'm not sure if they've been having sex after the baby was born(5 months ago)... but I definitely see the thirst in his eyes... I've been trying really hard to be cool.I'm very confused now. I have a boyfriend and I love him very much. But this banned love is so ... hot that I can't stop thinking ! Should I avoid him? or should I talk to him? Someone please help me out here!! Thanks a lot!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2008): Here in case the message wasnt clear enough for u im putting all the responses together to see if u can understand it better okay
He loves her for her, not because of her looks or how well-read she is. He fell in love with HER, not you. You need to get over that because, no matter what you think you see, I can almost guarantee he doesn't feel the same way.
He's probably looking at you thinking you're a stupid young girl for pining after a married man who's got a baby.
Be honest with yourself, he's treating you nice, becaus lets face it, he has to be, you've never done anything to upset him and you're family of his wife, he's got no reason to treat you horribly.
This doesn't mean he's undressing you with his eyes though. Move on with your life, because he's probably just as happy to get on with his.
who cares if ur prettier then her, thats not a nice thing to say and makes u sound big headed. secondly shes family dont u care about that, breaking up part of the family is a horrible thing. Its none of ur buisness if they are having sex or not afta they had their child. They have had a child.....do u really wanna break up that relationship and leave ur cousin a single mum? Clearly u need to see that doing anything with him is unthinkable and unforgivable and u need to forget about him. If he talks to u nicer then his wife he is simply trying to woo u....the way they act with each other is their buisness...and the fact u have a bf aswell! if ur thinkin about cheating on ur bf and sleepin with a family member....then u have problems with the concept of commitment.
if u need talk to him and tell him to f off and if u cant handle that then cut all contact with him and ur cousin for a while make excuses not to go to family meetings etc...u will hopefully soon see that he will find sum1 else to stalk..
Just because your well read and 'prettier' than her dosen't mean you'll be a better wife! how do you know once you two start dating for years he won't start acting the same way towards you? You got a boyfreind and he's got a wife and maybe kids, back off and open your eyes.
You should definitely avoid him.That's crazy to mess with your baby cousin's father.If their together they are together for a reason.you should never mess with your family members man whether they feel right for you or not.Someone else might be just as good as he is that's not your cousin's man.Looks don't really matter either dear.It matters how you personality is.He would prefer you but he knows he is with her.He's just being a man.Don't fall for it.He is kind of older than you and besides you have a boyfriend.It will mess things up,don't do it.
GOod luck if i were you id stay with your boyfriend okaay hes probably jux as crazy as u r about him nd b happy god gave him to u so enjoy him 4get about ur cuzins hubbie focus on yours okkay
XOXOXO PS hope this helped
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reader, x..BabyGirl..x  +, writes (14 September 2008):
 He loves her for her, not because of her looks or how well-read she is. He fell in love with HER, not you. You need to get over that because, no matter what you think you see, I can almost guarantee he doesn't feel the same way.
He's probably looking at you thinking you're a stupid young girl for pining after a married man who's got a baby.
Be honest with yourself, he's treating you nice, becaus lets face it, he has to be, you've never done anything to upset him and you're family of his wife, he's got no reason to treat you horribly.
This doesn't mean he's undressing you with his eyes though. Move on with your life, because he's probably just as happy to get on with his.
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reader, purplecloud03  +, writes (14 September 2008):
 first of who cares if ur prettier then her, thats not a nice thing to say and makes u sound big headed. secondly shes family dont u care about that, breaking up part of the family is a horrible thing. Its none of ur buisness if they are having sex or not afta they had their child. They have had a child.....do u really wanna break up that relationship and leave ur cousin a single mum? Clearly u need to see that doing anything with him is unthinkable and unforgivable and u need to forget about him. If he talks to u nicer then his wife he is simply trying to woo u....the way they act with each other is their buisness...and the fact u have a bf aswell! if ur thinkin about cheating on ur bf and sleepin with a family member....then u have problems with the concept of commitment.
if u need talk to him and tell him to f off and if u cant handle that then cut all contact with him and ur cousin for a while make excuses not to go to family meetings etc...u will hopefully soon see that he will find sum1 else to stalk
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2008): Just because your well read and 'prettier' than her dosen't mean you'll be a better wife! how do you know once you two start dating for years he won't start acting the same way towards you? You got a boyfreind and he's got a wife and maybe kids, back off and open your eyes.
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reader, Analdia +, writes (14 September 2008):
 You should definitely avoid him.That's crazy to mess with your baby cousin's father.If their together they are together for a reason.you should never mess with your family members man whether they feel right for you or not.Someone else might be just as good as he is that's not your cousin's man.Looks don't really matter either dear.It matters how you personality is.He would prefer you but he knows he is with her.He's just being a man.Don't fall for it.He is kind of older than you and besides you have a boyfriend.It will mess things up,don't do it.
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