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female
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36-40,
*haprincess
writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year. I'm his first official partner, he has a dark past. Anyways, he's had four one night stands before and am a virgin, I really don't know what to do, he hasn't pressured me into having sex and we really love each other but I can't stop thinking about those 4 girls (grosses me out.) Please advise. :(
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reader, thaprincess +, writes (23 September 2007):
thaprincess is verified as being by the original poster of the question never mind.. it's over (U) :'(
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reader, duce00  +, writes (26 August 2007):
 I respect your moral fiber. You have kept your virginity longer than most do and thats somthing to be proud of. That being said: Simply because many people have to learn by theyre mistakes before they understand the value of manogomy and fulfilling long term relationships doesnt mean you should be offended by them. The subject matter is awkward for you but what if it was say...driving? Wouldnt it be acceptable to get a few speeding tickets and maybe even a fender bender while you are young? Just as long as its honest mistakes due to youthful inexperience I dont see any problem. He had to find his way to you by another road, many of us have done that before finding somebody we can love. He sounds like a nice guy, we are not so easy to come by my dear :)
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (26 August 2007):
 Hi
Past is past. He hasnt had that many one night stands compared to some people!
I wouldnt be worrying about how many people he has slept with. Everyone has a past, you will be lucky to meet someone that hasnt!
Chill out and enjoy your guy. And he sounds real nice if he's not pressuring you into doing anything yet. Sounds like you're the special one he thinks enough of to not just use.
Its all good!
Good luck.
C xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2007): Your boyfriend has been truthful about his past, he surely didn't intend to weaken your trust in him, but it seems to have happened. We must understand nevertheless when we start a relation, that we have to accept that person together with her past, as there are no means to change it. You can't generalise for ex that one-night-standers are totally unreliable, and as long as he was honest with his intentions in those four occasions from the beginning... Everyone is supposed to settle down at some point, also. Have in mind doubts can be very harmful to a relation so talk to him if you wish to feel reassured. Please check this link about overcoming the other's past - http://www.dearcupid.org/question/does-anyone-have-any-advice-about-overcoming-y
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