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writes:I've liked my best friend's brother is 3 years older than me and I've been madly in love with him for 4 years. During these 4 years I've been trying to convince myself that I'm too young to be in love, theres no way he'd ever like me, there are other guys out there. But in the end, no matter how much I try I can't move on. Me and my best friend's brother (BFB for short) are pretty, if not very close. We've hung out one on one, and we carpooled to school together so we ended up seeing and talking to eachother every single day. I've been on vacation with his family, I've been to movies/ dinner/ amusement parks with just him and his sister, and I'm a really close family friend. Everytime I'm over their house I never hang out with my Best Friend alone, its always her and her brother. So I see and talk with him quite often. The problem is, he's going to college this year. I don't know what I'll do once he leaves. I know I'll be heart broken, there's no getting away from that... but I was wondering, should I tell him how I feel before he leaves? Or should I just keep the feelings to myself? And if you think I should tell him, how would I do it to avoid akwardness?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2011): My best friend already knows that I'm in love with her brother, and oddly enough she loves the idea of me going out with her brother. So thats not a problem but thanks for considering. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2011): if he wasn't going to college this year, i'd suggest you tell him, but it might interfere with his schoolwork if he keeps thinking about you. i think you should wait until he visits home on a holiday and tell him. that way, you can have some time to yourself to think about you feeling for him. Sometimes, people just need a break from there objects of affection.
p.s. ive been through the same situation you are going through right now. I told him i liked him, but he was gay, so i was pretty heart broken, but i got over it after a while
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (8 August 2011):
 I'd keep my feelings to myself. I think you'll just embarrass both of you, or maybe worse, if you speak up . If he was interested in you romantically I think he would have shown it by now. He's off to college and will be very busy, and that's exactly what you should do, stay busy and get involved at your school.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2011): Personally I wouldn't tell him at all, I know this because I was in the position myself. It can make things very awkward and you could lose your best friend as well as the guy you like. I know how difficult it is. Does your best friend know that you like her brother? I decided that my friendship was more important, as it can really complicate everything if you did get involved and it didn't work out, or if he doesn't like you that way. Sometimes we like and even love people that no matter how much we want to be with we just shouldn't be with them. It's tough, and I hope that you find a way to deal with the situation. i wish you all the luck.
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reader, MyDaysOnceRevolvedAroundYou  +, writes (8 August 2011):
 Well this all depends on how old you are exactly, if this boy is 18 and going away to college.. He won't be able to be with you if your under 16 anyway.. he could get into lots of trouble :/
If your friend is so close to take you on holiday with her and stuff? Is it even worth telling him in fear of losing her?
Good luck in whatever you do.
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