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writes:So I really messed things up with this girl. It started about a month ago when I started talking to this girl I met at a rave, we only communicated through texting and I just viewed her as a friend, but then one day we bumped into each other at a rave again and we started talking and got into deeper discussions. We had a great time and we decided to see each other again, we spent a whole saturday just hanging out together and I found out that she really liked me and was seriously considering me as more of a friend, but that's when my problem started. The whole night after she confessed her feelings to me, I just tensed up and showed no emotion, I really like this girl but had a big problem showing it. I have big trust issues because I had a really bad breaking up with my ex of 3 and half years. Thank god my best friend talked to her and explained to her my situation, which I wasn't there for, he told me afterwards.So our first date didn't go as planned and then we decided to see each other the next week again, when I saw her I felt happy and energized. but towards the end of the day were the emotions started getting serious, it happened again, i tensed up.My problem is that lately I've been noticing and I can tell that she's losing interest in me quickly. She's leaving for a 3 month trip and I at least want her to leave knowing that there's someone here that really cares and admires her. I'm going to see her at the airport before she leaves and need big advice. Do I confess and tell her my situation and my feelings? but if I do wouldn't that make a vulnerable person and scare her away? I really like this girl and we have so much in common and I don't want to regret losing an opportunity with such an amazing girl.. please help
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reader, mellie02  +, writes (8 August 2012):
YES you definitely should tell her how u feel before its too late- u really need to explain things to her. She'll probably think u are not interested in her and give up, write her a note if cant find the courage although i would personally prefer it to be face to face.
There are no gurantees in relationships but if you let your fear of other potential heartbreaks to stop u from living your life then it would be a shame. i say just give it your all and if things dont work out then take it as a learning and growing up process ;p good luck!
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (7 August 2012):
 If you are not showing interest in her, this girl is going to find someone else and never look back. Women don't pay much mind to men who ignore them or give them the cold shoulder. If you like this girl, you need to call her up pronto and ask her out. Preferrably not to a rave, preferrably to someplace decent where you can talk and spend time together.
Also, anytime you are involved in a relationship of any kind, there is the possibility that someone will break your trust. You can't just shut yourself off from the rest of the world when it happens.
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