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writes:So I've been dating this guy for about 2 months. We started out as friends which is really nice because we're super comfortable together. And I haven't felt this way about someone in years. Yes, I know its only a couple months. But there's something there. Anyways, recently a lot of people have been mentioning this "3 month mark" saying that if we don't take things to the next step or have a title its likely our relationship isn't going anywhere. And I usually don't let these things get me because I'm not that kind of girl. But it does have me kinda curious what he thinks about us. whether he sees us being more or not. And as weird as it is we hangout all the time, we get food, we do things together, and too throw it out there we are intimate. But we haven't gone on that OFFICIAL first date, I think because we started as friends. But romance wise, haven't quite gotten there. And me personally I have never heard of this "3 month" mark. So I don't know if my friends are just crazy. Or should I be talking to him about taking a next step? Or how do I bring this up to him? I just don't know if I should be concerned or I'm starting to let this get to my head. Reply to this Question
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (7 August 2012):
 I am not sure what you are talking about with this "three month mark". Your friends must put a lot of emphasis on the calendar instead of the actual relationship. It sounds like something silly that people who don't know much about relationships make up. I am 40 and don't know that the "three month mark" means anything. What does mean something is how how you are getting along. If you like one another and things are progressing, that is all you need to know.
Also, I am not sure what you mean about taking a relationship to the "next step" after only three months. I didn't know there were steps to relationships. If you like someone, you keep seeing him/her and building your communication and intimacy. There are not "steps" or "levels" and if there are, they don't go by months, they go by what you are comfortable with as a couple and where the relationship is naturally progressing.
I am also not sure what makes a date "the official first date". Most of my "official first dates" were in coffee or sandwich shops, going for a walk, a movie, or some sporting event. Whether those things were "official" or not, I am unsure.
Stop putting so much emphasis on what friends say and what milestones you should have. They mean absolutely nothing. What does mean something are all of the special things you do with your boyfriend when they feel right to you.
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reader, Atsweet1 +, writes (7 August 2012):
 yes find out if it's official exclusive or if feelings are mutual cause Im sure he don't want to waste your time with foolishness but values you seriously in the relationship
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