A
male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Me and my gf had a relationship for 1+ years..for me,i wouldnt say it was a great relationship but i do feel happy with it..then suddenly out of blue, she told me through text message that she was feeling guilty towards my kindness to her and that she had been a bad girl to me..she also told me that she can't go on anymore..I kept ask her what is her problem but she said she can't explain it and keep saying that "i just can't go on"..So what is goin on here? What do bothers her? I really love her so much and wouldnt want to let her go..I want to fix it but couldnt find a reason/cause for it..
View related questions:
text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2007): what should i do if now she is trying to avoid me? yet, she still answers my call but lately i feel like she doesnt want to talk to me..i'm clueless..what should i do?
A
reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2007): Good luck, dear and I hope you find the answers you truely seek. Take care
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2007): hey guys, thanks for all your comments and advice..but at the moment i'm gonna take Nicola and Wendy's advice. Because how can I move on if there is a still a big question of "WHY?"..i have many possibilities inside my head right now but to be exact, only she knows..wish me luck k..
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2007): Correction: In my posting please change the following statement,
"Do be one of one those guys."
to
"Don't be one those guys"
Damn..where are my glasses? lol
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2007): You can't fix this, dear. This girl has told you what she wants. You really deserved to hear this face to face but she took the yellow-bellied way out and she has texted you and told you"she can't go on anymore'. She broke up with you and you now need to accept that. You are hurting and I completely understand that you are in the midst of trying to come to grips with the 'why's' of what happened..you are lonely and feeling lost and you just are not ready to deal with this. This has come as a shock and I am sorry. A woman or man for that matter, who wants to make a love relationship work, would do anything to be by their beloved's side. People who love each and respect each other, don't break up with each other...plain and simple. As the other Aunts said-I also think she has done something 'bad' (possibly cheated) and is moving on without you. Now is the time to lose all contact with her...completely. Trying to make sense of what happened with her, will keep you stuck. Girls like your gf, do things like this because there are nice guys out there who allow them to. Do be one of one those guys. Take time for yourself. Surround yourself with good friends and loving family-people you trust through this recovery. Do not find excuses to stay stuck in this rut. Acceptance is crucial. Move on to a better happier life,d dear. It's the only way. Take care and good luck to you.
...............................
A
female
reader, AskEve  +, writes (3 March 2007):
 She's been a bad girl! It doesn't take a rocket scientist to work that one out... she's cheated with someone else and now feels guilty because you have been nothing but kind to her. She's too cowardly to even tell you straight! She's not for you. You deserve much better love. You said yourself it wasn't a great relationship but you were happy with it. Don't settle for being second best and don't settle for a relationship that just okay. Find someone who will put the Wow! into your relationship, someone you can love with all your heart and soul and who will love you back the same way!
Honesty and loyalty are to of the cornerstones in a relationship and this girl you're with now lacks both of them. Move on now and find true happiness, it IS out there but it's NOT with her.
Eve
...............................
A
female
reader, Wendyg +, writes (3 March 2007):
 I agree with Nicola, There is somethign she hasnt told you... and I think its to do with cheating or along those lines... She is feeling guilty and to her rather than confess its easier to end it...
You need to talk to her and ask why the sudden change and how can things be improved... that is off course if you can carry on after finding out what shes feeling so guilty about...
You have to find out why shes feeling this way, let her know that all you want to do is talk and take it from there. If you do want to fix it and you love her as you say im sure that you can find a way to do this.... provided she sees that you can forgive her for whatever she has done, let her know that whatever it is your sure it can be worked upon.
Secretly maybe things were not going as well as they could be, and like alot of others its easier to let things carry on than cause a ripple. You say things were not great but your happy, maybe some of this is whats led to whats happend. Try and iron out the crinkles and have a real heart to heart, tell her you want to make the best of it and to be there for her and will not judge her.
I hope it works out for you.
Take care x x
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2007): I agree with Nicola. She obviously feels bad for a reason so she must have done something wrong so i wouldn't rule out cheating as a option. There may be another reason but what could she feel so bad about? i hope she tells you the truth when you talk to her about it. good luck.
...............................
A
female
reader, nicola79 +, writes (3 March 2007):
 I may be wrong,and hope I am but it sounds as though she has cheated on you and now is too scared to be face to face with you. If you would be prepared to give it another go then you must ring her and say that you want to talk with her and whatever she has done,you can try and sort it out together.
Just say to her that you love her and you will listen to anything she has to say, then its up to you sweety to either give it another go or not????
I hope it works out for you. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
...............................
|
