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writes:i am getting these strange attractions to practically all the boys.. i feel very sexually attracted to them, and to be honest, im quite worried about how far i would go if they took advantage. the summer is coming up and there is always a harmless summer romance to be had.. im just a little worried about it this year.. seeing as i am that extra year older than last year.. and more mature. advice please?? x Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2011): your hormones are off-the-charts right now--heck, you're a teenager! i remember feeling like that too--like if i didn't have sex soon i would just DIE. :)a few things to think of:1. the first time i had sex, it HURT LIKE HELL. i screamed like a freakin' lunatic. luckily, the guy i was with was in love with me and was as gentle as could be and totally understood me--i was 25 years old and had been seeing him for a year (and now he's my husband!). i shudder to think if my first time was in the back of someone's car with some 15-year-old who probably would've just laughed behind my back with his friends after.2. there are lots of ways to ease sexual tension without having sex. i won't go into them here, but obviously you can pleasure yourself (and you can pleasure others) sexually without endangering yourself by having sex. i mean, if you're that crazy for sex, get a vibrator! DO NOT throw your virginity away on some "summer romance"--you will only regret it.
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reader, Orbiter +, writes (31 March 2011):
I suggest you try your hardest to avoid doing something by e.g not putting yourself in situations where they could take advantage. You're too young but even if you were older, it's not wise to have sex after only a month or two of seeing someone for your first relationship.
Still at the end of the day if you don't follow this advice and you're going to do something regardless then make sure you use protection especially condoms.
I'm not going to lecture you on the dangers of unsafe sex as I suspect you're already familiar with them. What I will advise you to do is think of how you'll feel emotionally if you're used by a boy for sex only and he brags to all his mates. Humiliated, embarrassed maybe? Is it worth that?
Also consider that it's possible if it's your first time that sex will hurt. So surely you want someone you trust and who will be considerate, not someone who's just out to satisfy themselves.
What you're experiencing is natural and healthy but after hearing the experiences of many different women, it's normally better for you emotionally and physically to of been in a long term relationship before you have sex for the first time. By this I don't mean a boy who you've known for two months, who swears blind that he's in love with you, look at the relationship logically and not hormonally.
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reader, jayokayo  +, writes (31 March 2011):
 you are just exsperiencing the natrual feelings of a human, as to how far you go is your choice, all i can advise is that you think before you act. your young and you have your whole life ahead of you. I have a 14 year old daughter and it is a worry for any parent especially with teenage daughters, I will say to you what i told my daughter, think before you act, remember you only have to make one mistake and you will have to contend with 3 choices, (I wont type the 3 choices but I think you will know what they are) but no matter what choice you make you will have to live with that choice the rest of your life. you say you are more mature then if that be the case then you will know not to go too far.
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