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One night with him and now I have feelings for him. How can I move on?

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Question - (19 May 2009) 0 Answers - (Newest, )
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

One year ago i started work at my new job and met a star of a person who i'm sure i will be good friends with for a long time. We spoke about everything and naturally her sons came up as we are fairly close in age. I then randomly met one of them as he plays football for my town and i go along to support. I fancied him straight away and there were a few lingering looks between the two of us.

This son came up more and more in conversation and the more i saw him around and chatted to him the more i liked him. The only problem was she was very open about the fact his relationships are usually on a one night only basis. His attitude is "Im young and having fun" (Im 20 he's 24.) My attitude is totally the other way and Id much rather be in a relationship, so I left well alone. As hard as I found it the more I saw of him the more I saw of his fun loving ways i.e different girl every week and knew I was ultimatly doing the right thing.

There were weeks when he was my shadow on the dance floor but I stayed strong. Months went by and my feelings faded but still every time I'd see him out I'd sigh to myself and think, god i wish you'd see sense..

Anyway one night last month I was particularly intoxicated and gave in.. we kissed in the club and we ended up back at my friends house were we slept together. I'd never done anything like that before and told myself I didn't care it was only for one night as Id liked him for ages... wrong. It all hit me with a bang in the morning and I was instantly gutted. He was absolutly lovely about it all and I don't regret it but I'm finding it hard moving on..

I've got feelings for him and it's horrible knowing nothing will come from it and seeing him up to his old tricks with other girls on the dance floor. It doesn't help that he makes a fuss of me every time i see him either because my hopes go up again that he'll want more even though i know he just doesn't/can't do relationships! I also have to cope with working closely with his mother every day with major guilt! advice on how to move on please..! x

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