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female
age
30-35,
*ummerbear
writes:there's this guy i met on a penpal site last summer in July; he's from Jamaica and when we started talking; we just clicked; we had so much in common especially since my background is jamaican as well. we talked every single day for hours on the site; we eventually started talking on the phone too almost every night. our relationship became flirty and intimate. we would talk sexual to each other; exchanged pics ; he even calls me his gf and he tells me that he wishes that i was his gf;we write letters to eachother and i started developing feelings for him and he told me he was catching feelings for me too.The messed up thing is that he has a gf in the States who went to spend time with him in Jamaica last summer. they've been together for over a year now. we've been talking for 10 months now and he tells me he loves me but i've really started to develop real feelings for him; i can't go a day without talking to him. I've tried to end this "thing" a couple of times but we only end up fighting like bf/gf and then things go back to how they were before. I just want to get out of this because everytime i see a personal msg on msn or a status on facebook about his gf; i die a little inside and its not a good feeling. but at the same time; i don't want to lose my friend-we tell eachother everything; personal things; he's even friends with my older sister. should i try to be friends with him or cut him off completely?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (24 May 2011):
 I would block him. His GF info is hurting you. he's not emotionally available to you for the type of relationship you want.fish or cut bait...
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reader, spinnaker +, writes (24 May 2011):
 The proverb "crap or get off of the pot" comes to mind here with this guy. He has little empathy for your emotions in this matter. Think about what you can control here and that is your time with him. You can break it off and in a little time you will be back on your feet and entering into a whole new life with more choices and possibilities - or - you can continue mired in this uncertainty of being someone's back up girl. I hate to sell out a fellow man, but there is not one person walking this earth, especially a guy, that is worth the kind of anguish and attention you have toward this person right now.
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