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writes:ive realised recently that i have been too insecure and clingy with the guy that ive been seeing. he always says he isnt angry at me but i know he gets exasperated. i have seen the error of my ways as it were, im going to give him his space for a while and let him contact me and try not to worry about every little thing. im going to try and be more secure in myself, and keep myself busy so that ill be more like the person he was initially attracted to. im just worried that it may be too late and i might already have pushed him too far.. how will i be able to tell? do you think the best thing to do is relax and see what happens? and is he likely to notice the change and forget that i was ever so needy and clingy and insecure? whatdo you think? i definitely dont want to push him anymore.
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reader, amazingk  +, writes (21 March 2011):
 Give him his space, and use that space to get yourself back together and also to determine whether or not the situation with him is one worth returning to. If he comes around, then great, and if not, at least you're back to being YOU!
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reader, bella5153 +, writes (21 March 2011):
give him space. don't contact him. give it time and your answers will reveal itself. good luck
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (21 March 2011):
 You mention it in your post. So busy so that I'll be more like the person he was initially attracted to.Are you always hiding your needs?Get you get your own needs met?Insecurity is a sign you are afraid of asking for something.How many times in your past have you been neglected because your needs were not met.Which person or persons in your past or near present do you feel you must always seek approval from?The more he backs off the more you will become insecure.The more you will try to gain his attention. I think you should think carefully about why you need approval and validation from those who ignore you, ask you to change for their benefit, or become angry because of your behavior.It is from this place you will grow to understand why your insecurities make you a ClingOn in disguise. You can't live the rest of your life hiding behind a mask. Find your fears, validate yourself, seek approval from only yourself. And who cares if he does or doesn't notice any changes, you're not here to be perfect for him. You are here to be perfect for YOU !!!
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