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writes:Hi there, new here but I've lurked around for a while so I'll just jump in.I had sex with my new boyfriend for the first time Saturday night. Foreplay was amazing best I've ever had actually, but when he wemt to put on the condom I noticed he wasn't all that big... and wasn't entirely "at attention" if you know what I mean. It was difficult to get in position and we ended up just fooling around orally for a while, but the fact that he couldn't get hard worries me. I think maybe he was nervous? Or was I just not too attractive? I don't know. And he is somewhat smaller than my previous partners, which isn't an issue but I don't know how to handle it, so to speak.Sorry if I sound shallow, I am not, this is just a tiny issue I'm worried about. Thanks for reading!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2012): I've had both those experiences, each problem with a different man. The first, him not "at attention," was with someone I'd waited a long time for, and it was our first time. I did the same as you, thinking it was me, that I wasn't attractive, etc. I now KNOW that it absolutely was his nerves, so no worries there. The next time will probably be just fine, though it may take a few more times.The thing about him not being as big as previous partners, well, that may not end up being as much of an issue as you think. My current partner is also somewhat smaller than my previous partner, and I was really taken aback, especially since the man himself is quite a large fella. Let me tell you, he is an amazing lover, and his size has not affected my pleasure AT ALL. I was so shocked and amazed. Hopefully you will find the same with your partner.
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reader, desiree075  +, writes (16 October 2012):
Haha I like your choice of words, "this is just a tiny issue..."
I wouldn't stress out about it too much, unless it goes on like that for weeks. In which case I would talk to him about it, but not too directly. just ask him what makes him relax, etc. Do you know if this is normal for him? Anyway, I wouldn't assume any problems for the future just yet.
Good luck!
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