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I'm gay, I am dating two women, who do I choose?

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Question - (22 July 2014) 6 Answers - (Newest, 3 August 2014)
A female United Kingdom age 41-50, anonymous writes:

hi i have a really bad problem i just met two women more less at the same time a couple of weeks ago. im a lesbian by the way and they both like me, im dating them both. i really like them both and no idea what one to choose at all. they both smoke but i dont worry about that but one woman has a dog and im not one for having pets or pet hair every where so do i go for the one without a dog. i like both women the same so far and finding it hard to date them both. one of the women i met through a friend so im thinking do i go with that one. any advice please?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2014):

I think your crazy. How the earth can you even think about dating two women at once, A: its not right and B: its not fare to both of them. Its sound like your rushing to much into it. You would know what women to go for anyway. You would feel a great sense of love for that "ONE" person.

I think you are confusing love with lust. Lust takes you away from reality and it doesn't last, Its a spark that dies. Love is when you've got to know that person and you cant stop thinking of them non stop.

I hope you sort it out and lust doesn't take over, because you will regret it one day, as there's know going back.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2014):

Hi thanks for replies but both women want a relationship with me I'm getting deeper into them both. What do I do?

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (23 July 2014):

Honeypie agony auntI agree with neither.

You sound more like you need help picking out a vase or a tv, than a life partner.

If dog hair is something you worry about, then you certainly don't feel anything along the lines of love or infatuation.

How about you figure out WHAT you want in a woman and then see if you can find someone who fills those shoes instead of playing "Eeny, meeny, miny, moe...

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A female reader, Mistresskiki United Kingdom +, writes (23 July 2014):

Surely it is far too early to be committed? Two weeks seems like an awfully short time to know either of these women(or any one) well enough to decide to 'settle down'. Are either of them saying THEY want to settle down or be exclusive?

If you haven't declared undying love, keep seeing them, or see others, don't tie yourself to one person until you are sure you want to be.

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A female reader, Euphoric29 Germany +, writes (22 July 2014):

Dear OP,

Honestly, I think you should choose neither.

Because if one of these women had really touched your heart and make you fall in love - you would not have ONE second of doubt. Your heart would tell you, clearly, who you need to be with. You would not be able to stop thinking of her, every love song would remind you of her, you would stare at your phone waiting for her text messages and totally forget about every other woman around. And you would not waste any thoughts about dog hair or anything practical, you would just want to be with her.

You sound like you feel sympathy for both of them, and now you are trying to decide with your head, who you should stay with. That's not love to me. Accept that you are single for the moment and wait for the real thing.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2014):

'I like both women and finding it hard to date them both', what?!

You said you met them both at roughly the same time, why did you start relationships with both? That's crazy risky, and if either woman found out, I'm sure she'd be devastated.

You need to pick the one you see a future with, not the one you think might be a bit of fun. And if you can't choose then you should break it off with both because you're playing with fire and you're gonna get burned, doll.

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