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36-40,
anonymous
writes:How late is too late for guys to enter the dating game and start looking for a relationship. 25? 30? 35? I mean, to really just START! Never had a girlfriend, never been on a date before, maybe never even kissed a girl. This could all be due to many combination of reasons: unfriendly environment, shyness, being busy with school and work, whatever. The reason I ask is nowadays it seems that 15 and 16 are the norm for males to start dating and experiencing relationships. What about us older guys, like 31 year olds for example. Is it too late to start? Do women go for the guys with more experience because they feel safer in the sense that their partner knows what they are doing? I ask because women my age are going to have lots more experience with dating, relationships, and sex, so would they expect me to also have experience?
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reader, H8Reality217 +, writes (6 September 2014):
Can't help but be so jealous and envious of people that got experience in the 18-25 age range
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reader, SensitiveBloke  +, writes (23 July 2014):
 My dad has just started a new relationship at 78! It's never too late!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (22 July 2014):
 There's no such thing as "too late" for anything in life. You might not be a prefect fit for every woman you meet, but it'd be the same even if you had tons of relationship experience.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (22 July 2014):
 Well, since you can't turn back the clock what else can you do but get out there and try?
Or you will be in your 40's, and still ask if it is too late.
31 is not too late. My DAD met my mom at 16 and married at 18 - spend 45 year married, and HE has been dating a very nice lady for little over 2 years. He is in his 70's. That is his SECOND relationship. So, no it's never too late.
There are girls out there like you, who are shy and have never dated and there are girls/women who have dated loads of men but yet remain single.
As long as you CAN HANDLE dating a woman who have BEEN with someone else before you, you will do fine.
Women are as different as men, we like all kind of different things, types and experiences.
Don't let the fact that you don't have much or any experience hold you back.
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reader, Euphoric29  +, writes (22 July 2014):
Dear OP,
I'd say - better late than never.
No matter how old you are, if you want a girlfriend, just start dating now.
You can't expect things to be easy for you, because as you said, you are surrounded by people who have more experience. So, you need to be prepared that you will probably be faced with some awkward moments and unsuccessful dates at first. But still, to find somebody who loves you is totally worth the effort and this is part of the game.
It's really hard to answer the question if women prefer experience. On one hand, yes, when a man is "experienced" I believe he will know what a woman wants and be better at building a lasting relationship. Then again, in reality I've found out this is not always true. There are guys who managed to have a girlfriend or to get married without being very sensitive towards a woman's needs and also lack the skills I would have hoped for when it comes to sexual matters.
So, experience is an advantage, but not everything. Some women rely on it as a clue if you're fit for a relationship, others might still give you a chance if you admit you're unexperienced. I'd say if you're a sociable guy in general, then you can also compensate for some level of dating experience by just using everyday social skills you need. A friendly, funny and open-minded person will probably have better dates than an unfriendly, grumpy and closed-minded one.
So, without wanting to sound too cheerful, just try. Don't give up. If something goes wrong, try to analyze from where it went all downhill and do better next time. Everything in life is a learning process, and dating is no exception.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2014): There is no time limit, it's whenever you want to enter the dating world. You don't have to tell people that you've never dated or whatever. Just go for it, be confident in yourself and stay true to who you are.
Women like what they like, everyone is different. Some like experienced men and others like a man similar to their level of experience or less. It depends on the woman.
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