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writes: Hi i have been gay for nearly 7 years and am currently in a relationship. however for a while now i have developed feelings for girls. Recently i was in a potential situation where something could have happened however i stayed away so it couldn't however i really wanted it to.What do i do. do i stay in a gay relationship or what. Ive heard of str8 men becoming gay but never the other way round. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2006): I think as you are currently in a relationship which has been going for 7 years out of respect i would tell your partner your feelings.Im in a gay relationship myself and i would rather be told about this and likewise i would tell my partner.You could be bi-sexual who knows but if your relationship has been 7 happy years why risk spoiling it if your feelings isnt as true for female's.
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reader, iamsoscrewedup333 +, writes (21 April 2006):
I think that if you are having these feelings you may actualy be bi sexual and not exclusivly "gay". Many many people are bi or have bi feeling so it is not unusual for this to happen. I would say that if you are in a relationship that it would still be "cheating" if you were to do something with a woman but I think that you owe it to yourself to see if there is something missing in your life that could make you happy. I would say give it a try and see what happens, if you are truely "gay" then you will probably not like it, if you are bi or have attractions to women then you will love it (belive me!!)
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reader, tellie +, writes (19 April 2006):
hey dnt worri straight is great
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmany thanks both awnsers have been helpful and now i just think ive got alot of sorting out to do with where im going and what im doing but your awnsers have helped me to stand back and take a look at things logically.
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reader, Highland Help +, writes (19 April 2006):
 I think having been a gay man you certainly need to have some health checks done for the sake of the girls you may sleep with just in case you have picked anything up and you do not know about it. It is only fair to your new partner. So have you gone off your current partner or just fancy a bit of something else ??
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reader, chachacha  +, writes (18 April 2006):
It doesn't matter what sex the person is that you fall for - the key is what relationship you are in, and what relationship you want.
You say that you are in a relationship - your doubts about that relationship are key - it doesn't matter that those doubt centre around thoughts that perhaps you might like a woman.
How would you feel if you had been in a situation where a potential relationship could have occured with another man - you'd still have to work out how you felt about your current bf.
What I would suggest is you deciding (and hopefully discussing openly and honestly) what is good about your current relationship, and the areas where it falls short, and deciding with your bf whether to continue or not.
If you decide to split, then you can decide to have a relationship with either a man or a woman - it doesn't matter which, and no one else's view should matter, only yours. Take it how it comes.
Good luck
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