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writes:hello people once again i'm after advice or in some sense reasurrance, my relationship has it breaking point my girlfriend says she is not happy with life but although she loves me and says i've done nothing wrong she says she don't know if she can keep the relationship going now the first thing i said to her is that if she needed it i will leave her alone for a few months or something.when she said she isn't happy about life she said she weren't happy with her family, friends and me she says she feels alone and she don't seem to know herself now of course typical me i have taken this pretty hard and finding it hard to get round it all right now but we both agreed to talk about it some more then take a little break.now i like to think there is still hope for me and her as this thing has happen before in a sense but i honestly don't want this to end as i'm scared it will but if it does then there is nothing i can do about it or is there some way i could help her through these depressing times Reply to this Question
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (20 April 2006):
 First things first I think it is only natural to feel rejected in your situation but although it is hard and easy for me to say this you do have to try and stay strong. I would recommend you try and create your own support network of people you can confide in and who will support you. In maintaining your own strength you are helping her because the stronger you are the better able you are to help her.
Part of this is not letting your hopes and fears being too affected by what she says and does, she will probably feed both at different points because she is in a very confusing place. Take what she says with a little pinch of salt when it comes to these things but respect her clearly expressed wishes. If you talk try and make it light unless she wants to go further into how shes feeling, in which case try and keep a lid on your own fears for the moment as any expression of these will feel like pressure, something which may have the opposite result to the one you desire.
You can reassure her you are there for her and do little, subtle things to show you care, even if it is simply asking how her day was and what she did. I hope that helps, good luck to you both.
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