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writes:hi, i'm almost 18 and a virgin :) i have been in a relationship since i was 15. my boyfriend is a nice guy and i trust him a lot but still i never let him have any kind of sexual intercourse with me. but now i am thinking to move into a physical relationship. i heard about it a lot from my friends and their "exciting"( as they say) sexual life. it has really made me anxious to have a session. but the problem is i don't know how to express this to him, and where should we do it? i'm a bit shy ( as i have never let him do it before) and it's not possible at my home, nor his at anytime of the day. is doing this a good idea?please suggest something. thank you
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reader, Roxsanna  +, writes (25 April 2011):
the fact that your anxious about this proves you still need time, dont feel pressured to loose your virginity because of what age you are or because of what your friends have bragged about to you, just take a lot of comfort in knowing that your relationship with your boyfriend isn't about sex its much deeper and the fact he hasn't pressured you into doing anything sooner proves that he is patient and kind which shows that he can be more patient if you decide to wait longer, and he'll understand when you tell him how you feel, just get some time between you two, alone, and talk to him about it and then decide from there once you've discovered how the other feels.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2011): youve been in a relationship for 3 years. i think the fact that no one has tried anything shows that you are responsible. i think youre ready.
i would start to make a move on him. touch his body and penis more. get him to feel you.
i think you should go away for the weekend. be warm and safe. unlike me. i lost my virginity at 16, drunk, at the end of my best friends garden, with another 16 year old who i known for 3 days :)
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (24 April 2011):
 Well if either of you cant do this in each others home well then it kind of makes it a bit impossible. Unless you have somewhere safe and private to go then I dont think it is a good idea having sex as you need to feel comfortable. Especially as it is your first time. Well you are 18 therefore you are legally an adult. Why not make it special and book in to a hotel for a night with your boyfriend? Or else go away for the weekend together just the both of you. Tell him how you feel and what you are thinking. You have been with him a long time so am sure you should feel confident about talking to him about these things. Goodluck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2011): ever heard of peer presure? thats what your friends are doing to you. mark my words you'll regret listening to them
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2011): you could go away for a weekend. you are coming up 18 and youve been in this relationship for 3 years. surely both sets of parents can see you are ready and responsible.
do not let your friends pressure you. they may have had sex before but thats there life. (although i think it sounds like your ready).
i wouldnt start sex straight away. why not try using hands and oral to get things rolling before moving to sex. to suggest this why not place your hands next to his penis, or place his hands near your vagina.
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