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writes:Alright,even though some of this may sound wrong,I'm going to be completely honest about everything.I'm 15 years old in 3 months,and I have really low confidence in myself.I have a girlfriend and we've been dating for a month now.She's had several boyfriends in the past,while I've had one girlfriend before her(and nothing really happened in that relationship)so she's VERY experienced while I'm not at all.Our relationship has even gotten so far to the point that we both say "I love you" and we mean it.Lately,she's been mentioning oral sex and "3rd base".She says that she's completely ready for it,and I SAY I am too. Don't get me wrong,I really want to,I think it's a great,comfortable and safe alternative to sex.But I'm nervous.I'm 15 years old(soon) and I've never done this before.I'm nervous about alot of things,like "Is my penis too small?" or "will I look stupid?" or "will I mess up and embarrass one of us?"What exactly am I supposed to do in the event we DO have oral sex?Just sit back and let her do the work?
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reader, isaias15 +, writes (23 April 2009):
 BRO im 15 as well and i've got a girlfriend also and we both say i love you as well, to be comfortable with her you half to be comfortable with yourself and be totally honest with her, like me and my girl where going to move in with eachother in a matter of time I LOVE HER SO MUCH! i knew her for about a year, and i still havent even thought about oral sex, And about your penis, She prob. havent seen alot anyway so dont feel bad when my girl say my penis She was like WOW!!! WERE 15 we wanna have oral sex, but the real answer is, is she the rite 1 for you ISAIAS
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2008): Your the same age as me soon, and not having oral sex by the time your 15 doesn't mean your an underachiever. It doesn't mean you'll never be child prodigy.
Of course you won't know what to do. Your 15, thats the point. I'm not necessarily against you doing it, because that wouldn't be answering your question. Your question is what do you do.
I'd seriously, before you do tell her that your not sure what to do. Let her take the lead for the first and second time. Just so you know.
You COULD watch porn, but remember that they are professionals, they have done it before, and they are perfect situations. In reality, its not the same.
Read other peoples advice as they have been through it and done it before.
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reader, Uncle Sneaker  +, writes (9 July 2008):
 Do what you feel comfortable doing. If it doesn't feel 100% comfortable, then don't do it or don't let her do it.
For a start you can get any ideas out of your head like those that seem to be worrying you. No, your penis is not too small. No, you won't look stupid. No, you won't mess up and embarrass either of you. BUT you need to be sure each step of the way.
I keep saying it in my answers, but it needs to be said again: at your age, your emotions and your sexuality is still developing. It's because many (most) young people's feelings, hormones and emotions are all over the place that there are specific rules, laws, that make sex under the age of 16 illegal. Technically that includes sexual contact like you are describing. Any sort of sexual contact is, believe me, very much better when it's with someone you love very deeply - and it's never as good while you are still finding out about yourself and about your own feelings. So do consider seriously just how far you want to go right now, and above all don't be frightened of saying you aren't ready. If she's worth having, she will respect that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2008): thats exactly what youre supposed to do. if she said she wants to do that to you, then just let her do allll the work. all you have to do is relax. nothin to it. i bet youll love it.
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