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writes:I don't know what to do.It's 3am, I was woken up by my girlfriend who dumped water on me to wake me up. What if I didn't wake up and drowned, there's a fan next to me and could have caught hypothermia and she's a nurse she would know about that. I don't know if I trust sleeping around her anymore now. Background: We where out for one drink and dancing with a new friend. I was clear that I had to be up for an important two week business course I'm taking to start my own business and she knows I cant miss because I will lose funding to support myself through a government grant. Our friends husband didn't go out with us, so I left to come home, she said she loved me and would be home in an hour. I leave my apartment unlocked for her and go strait to bed as I don't expect her home in an hour because she likes to drink and would be defensive of me saying this, but it's true. I have a downtown apartment but mostly stay with her as she has a house from her previous marriage and teenage relationship where herself and four kids live. Her awesome children, who on this night three of them are with their dad for the night and the oldest being 13 is at home, old enough to handle himself. She needs to be home for 7:30 for her children being dropped off. I wake up to water being poured on me at 3am as she got home trying to wake me up, I wake up in a panic and distress. I'm told that she wanted to make sure I woke her up when I woke up, and I say that I would have done so and did not have to be woken up to do so. It's not hard to be aware what was really wanted coming home at 3am, attention. I don't know if I'm over reacting, but I'm scared if I should be ok with what happened. I woke up, had a smoke outside, came back in and I see her acting like she's sleeping (or she's passed out drunk). I asked her to leave, told her how I feel now and heard "call me a cab and I'll wait outside". No act of actually leaving, and I'm worried about going to sleep because I feel traumatized from this.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (4 September 2010):
 That gives a new meaning to the term "wet blanket."
Sorry couldn't resist.
People act stupid when they're drunk, I'm concerned that maybe she can't hold her liquor. Perhaps she shouldn't be drinking?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2010): I think that everyone has a valid point when they say you might be over reacting but I also think that "maybe rather than asking her not to wake you up with cold water, you should ask her to drink less" is a valid point as well. I think you might already know that though. You have already stated that she likes to drink and that she gets defensive when you point that out to her. My guess is that you do not like to drink as much and definitely take issue with the way she behaves after she has. Maybe you guys aren't right for each other.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (23 July 2010):
 Yes, Q, I see your point. People like what they like. And I am not the type that would like to stop everybody from having some fun . I just thought that, she being a nurse... Oh wait. That's why. Maybe she is a wet nurse.
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (23 July 2010):
Exactly,adifferentperspective,the thing that strikes me too is that she is a nurse !. I guess she had the day after off, but still...
Well,OP, I guess basically this is the problem, if you accept to date a woman who drinks like a fish, then you have to expect her to act irrational and obnioxious at times.
Maybe rather than asking her not to wake you up with cold water, you should ask her to drink less .
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reader, Starmonster888  +, writes (23 July 2010):
 Drowning and hypothermia? Exactly how much water are we talking here man, like a little lake or something?
You're overeacting, and she's a funny drunk.
And am I the only one who finds it funny this dude called himself waterdumped? That's freaking hilarious...don't you get it? Ahh whatever!
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (23 July 2010):
 Honestly man you sound a bit wet.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (23 July 2010):
 Was it rude? Absolutely. Are you overreacting? Absolutely.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2010): your more likely to be disgruntled and frustrated being awakened so abruptly in a deep sleep...
Tell her when things are cooled down, that things like that are not okay. You understand she was drunk and perhaps she tried waking you before pouring water on you... But maybe investing in an alarm clock would do you both a favor.
You both have things to accomplish at important times- sleep is needed! She's probably feeling bad now anyways... or doesn't remember.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2010): im forced to agree with gabrielle, youre over-reacting
i understand waking up in such a way is frustrating, spesh if you have important meetings in the morning...however you should be more understanding of the fact she was drunk. perhaps she tried to wake you before to make sure you knew to wake her up but couldnt and as a last resort poured water on ur face?
that or it could have been funny, i know it amuses me thinking about it, but i am a cruel person
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (23 July 2010):
 Umm...she was drunk and thought it might be funny? You aren't likely to catch hypothermia since you'd wake up and wipe off the water?
Are you quite sure you are not over-reacting?
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