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writes:ive been talking to this guy he is nineteen and he lives in south carolina and i live in california but like im really starting to like him and i cant help but smile wen he txt me ive never felt like this before and im not sure what to do im fourteen and ill be fifteen march fourteenth. i met him through my friend because he was her boyfriends friend she met them both on winter break and she might be going back out there this summer and ive started visiting my aunt every summer in maine and my mom said i might be able to stop off in south carolina and visit for a few days i dont know what to do because im really falling for him. thank you for all your advice in advance :) Reply to this Question
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reader, Imoginv  +, writes (31 January 2011):
A friend of mine got ra*ed because of meeting a guy on a chat site, she was in hospital for 3 weeks and the guy wasn't found, he went by the name David said he was 20 and brown hair and eyes
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reader, Sweety123 +, writes (29 January 2011):
Sweety123 is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank you for your honesty i appreciate it very much
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reader, Ignacio ramos +, writes (29 January 2011):
Are you out of your mind? Does child molester mean any thing to you? There are laws we live by. You're 14 and he's 19, and you want to meet this 19 year old guy? I have one thing to say to you... Danger zone, keep your ass at home, your home is your safe zone.
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reader, Ignacio ramos +, writes (29 January 2011):
Are you out of your mind does child molester mean any thing to you thare laws we live by your 14 and he's 19 and you want meet this 19yo guy i got one thing to say to you. Danger zone keep your ass at home your home is your safe zone.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (29 January 2011):
This sounds really unsafe. You really shouldn't put yourself in a position where you can get hurt by someone who can then never be traced. You don't really know anything about this man.
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reader, blackgoose  +, writes (29 January 2011):
I know how you feel, but unfortunately consent laws are very strict matters that are near impossible to argue against - and can be scarily compromising from his position as an older guy. Definitely keep in touch with him, but if you can't see yourself being able to settle as friends for now, it might be worth putting off any visits until there's no legal issues if things happen to move quickly between you two. Believe me when I say I know how you feel. My boyfriend and I have 8 years between us and before we 'officially' began dating we had to force ourselves to investigate state and federal laws as I was 16 at the time. Luckily it was, but at the time we both agreed to not see each other (as much as it hurt to even consider!) if I was too young at that stage. Good luck, and be thankful that he lives far away making avoiding each other MUCH easier - too keep you both out of any unwanted trouble!
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reader, Blue_Velvet +, writes (29 January 2011):
 As someone who was once in your position? DON'T. If you two really like each-other he will have no problem waiting until you are like Flynn said, of a legal age. I know it's hard and with a first love, and it can seem like no one really understands but there is a reason Chris Hanson made it big on 'To Catch a Predator'. It's better to play it safe, develop a good, strong, long-distance relationship than rush to meet him. If this guy really likes you, he'll wait.And if you are dead set on meeting him? Do it in a public place, make sure you go with someone you trust, someone older, (like your mom?) make sure that at least three people know your whereabouts at all times. It may seem overly dramatic, but it's important you take care of your safety first.Good Luck.Blue Velvet
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2011): This is a sticky issue. Mainly because, legally speaking, you are not old enough to consent to any form of sexual liaison, should one present itself.And at his age, it is almost guaranteed to.Keep it to a friendship, platonic, until you are able to make the decision yourself, according to age of consent laws.It may seem unfair, but understand the laws exist for a reason.Flynn 24
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