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anonymous
writes:ok so i'm really embarrassed about this but i need some peace of mind. the problem is that i find it really difficult to orgasm during sex. i know it's not impossible because it has happened, but it's when i've been doing all the work and i feel guilty because my first boyfriend started blaming himself. i'm currently seeing a guy and i really like him a lot and he's great in bed, but i can't manage to climax, i get half way there at times then it just vanishes. can anyone give me some advice or tell me where i'm going wrong coz it's doing my head in.
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reader, Denizli  +, writes (17 September 2010):
 I think you shouldn't focus that much on reaching the orgasm because it happens that you are too concentrated just looking forward for it to come that you don't really enjoy the sex itself so it kinda provokes your body and mind don't get connected to go for the climax and you get frustrated when you realize your most wanted moment just didn't come.
Just relax and let your body and yourself enjoy the moment, get your mind in blank and just think about the moment, what you are doing, what your feeling and what the other person is making you feel.
Another advice would be trying to stimulate other areas, trying new positions that could make you feel more satisfied.
If that doesn't work for you, you could get one of those gel solutions (sexual stumulant lubricants) that make you feel more sensitive down there, those are safe and you can get them in any drugstore/pharmacy.
But I strongly believe it's your own mind what makes it harder for you to get the orgasm.
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