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writes:Why Do People Look At SINGLE Women as Weird?I am in my early 20's (23) but I feel like I'm still 19 years old. Time has gone by so fast but I dont feel like my age yet. Guys are always complimenting me and asking me out but I politely turn down the offers because they usually dont have the same morals as me. Okay so I am currently living with my dad/grandma and I am on unemployment. I worked at a resturant for 1 yr prior... and a nursing home before that. My goal is to be an actress so that is what I am working on right now. I go to see my coach 1-2 times a week and I practice my craft when I am at home. ....The thing is, I don't own a car (I can not afford one right now) so my dad basically drives me everywhere or I hitch a ride with a friend. (i barely have friends either/they are too busy shacking up with men who they are not married to).......*Also, I dont have a relationship with my mother or two sisters (ages 21 and 18) because they live reckless lives and my mother enables their lifestyle. I choose not to be around crazy people. I don't think it is good for me or my mental/physical health.*I have noticed that the kids I graduated from H.S with are either married or fat with two kids or engaged or fat and pregnant. (I am using the word "fat" because it's true). Majority of them have babies but are not married. There is this one chick who has two different baby daddies from our graduating class. These people are having babies and stuff but dont even have a good career. Half of them work dead end jobs that they are always complaining about on their FB statuses (lol). I have never had a bf in my life, I have only kissed one guy and I don't believe in dating just for casual sex. (I dont believe in pre-marital sex)Why is everyone so quick to have babies and get hitched at such a young age; especially when they haven't even lived and experienced life yet? And then when you are a single virgin with goals, people think you are weird for being single? I have a sister who JUST turned 18 who is already talking about getting married because her "friends are doing it"PS: I dont plan on getting married until about 32+ and I don't want kids although adoption is possible.
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reader, xanthic +, writes (17 September 2010):
 I'm 23 as well, and have been in a similar situation. The problem with many people our age seems to be they have no clue what maturity really is, and think getting married, having casual sex and then having children from said casual sex is what adults do. Be glad you're well beyond your years and have a clear idea of what you want, rather than let negativity from other people drag you down.
There's nothing wrong with being single at 23, you have goals and don't want to push them aside for the sake of finding a relationship. One would be nice, sure. But is it necessary? No. You should be proud of yourself for having this much drive and motivation at a young age.
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reader, BassiveMalls +, writes (17 September 2010):
 If weird is not doing what most people do than yes your life would be considered weird because most people do get married around 24ish.
I agree that people should make sure the person they are marrying is the one, especially with the divorce rate so high. I also really don't want children. To me it just seems like they take away your freedom and completely change the person you used to be.
I know its hard to get a job these days but you live with your dad and are on unemployment all the while trying to become an actress along with approximately 100 million other people in this country. Maybe I'm being pessimistic but I think I'm being realistic when I tell you to maybe get an actual job while you're waiting on your "big break".
I can definitely see how people would consider being 23 and never being in a relationship, nor even wanting one strange. I'm not judging you but on paper I would say that that particular person was not attracted to members of the opposite sex. It is possible to be "broke" and in a casual relationship with someone who isn't in it just for sex. If you don't want a relationship Ok, that fine, but don't assume all men are sex fiends that can't enjoy a woman because they actually like them.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (16 September 2010):
You can be sure I'm not in a rush to get married! You stick to your career goals and just leave everyone else to it. You'll be better for it in the end.
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