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writes:Hi. A couple of weeks ago, my best friend (a woman) and I went to the cinema and then for something to eat afterwards. Later, we went back to my house to continue the girly night. We went in to the kitchen to get a drink. We were talking then, all of a sudden, my friend grabbed me and passionately kissed me. I should have been shocked but instead I went with it and kissed her back. It got heated and we went to my bedroom and had sex all night. We talked about it in the morning and she admitted that she was bi-sexual and had always fancied me but was afraid of what my reaction would be if she had made a move on me. To tell the truth, I'm glad she did. It felt so right and the sex is fantastic. But, I'd be lying if I said I wasn't a little afraid of this new side of myself that I have discovered. We have admitted to each other that we have fallen in love with one another but I used to dream about getting married and having children and now I'm bi-sexual?! I want to be with her but I'm scared. Can anyone help me?
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reader, loving arms +, writes (3 March 2009):
Congratulations !!! sounds like you're having a lovely time with someone who is not only your best friend, but is also your lover. Just enjoy what you have. As mentioned already ,marriage and children are possible in same sex relationships. We only live once so why question what is so obviosly enjoyable. Also you talk about being bi, do we need labels? You are in love with someone who just happens to be a female. I wouldn't try to label it, just go with the good feeling your relationship provides. I wish you and your gilfriend continued happiness.
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reader, melon +, writes (3 March 2009):
It sounds like you've found something really special, don't let it go just because you're afraid. You're not giving up on getting married and having kids, it's perfectly possible with same sex partnerships! Good luck :-) xx
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (3 March 2009):
 You can still get married and have children in a same sex partnership, you shouldnt feel like you are giving up on that. Civil partnerships are widely available in the UK now and it is a pretty normal thing to do, you could make it like a big white wedding but instead of a groom it will just be the woman you love.
And as for children, there are a huge number of options open to you. Dont rule this out just because of your new relationship.
By the sounds of it you have found something special, and you shoul hold on to it for as long as you can. Of course it will be scary as this is all new to you but look at it as a learning experience where you will share so many new amazing experiences with your partner.
Try and put your fear to one side and enjoy the relationship. You mentioned that it feels right and that is all that matters for now. At some point along the line when you have been together longer and your love is even stronger then you can talk about the future including kids and marriage. But for now just enjoy this relationship, its not often that someone special comes along and makes you challenge what you think about yourself - this is a good thing not a bad thing!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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