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writes:okay so i am 19 years old and my boyfriend is 20. I have been with him since i was 15 years old and i love him very much. It was a sort of love at first sight kind of thing. We became sexually active 8 months after we got together and he has always been the sweetest kindest lover but also the most exoctic kinky open minded one too.The problem is i cant have too much sex if that makes sense. He can last a very long time but i cant. I could never go for more then an hour or two, and i take like 1 or 2 breaks in between because at some point it goes from pleasure to pain. Not really pain that hurts but its like i couldnt take another second of pleasure. I dont understand why that is because i have heard that most women have multiple orgasms over and over agian with out a problem. But i can rarley have more then two with out having that feeling like i just cant take anymore. It has put strain in the relationship at times becuase by the time i cant go on anymore he still hasnt cum. He has never made me continue when i fell like i cant go on any longer but i feel horrible leaving him like that. I have gone to see a doctor about it already and there was nothing physically wrong with me so i just dont know whats wrong with me. Is there anybody else out there that has the same issue or has any clue as to whats wrong with me or is there anything i can do to change this? please help and thanks in advance for any help you might give
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2010): i cant reach orgasm either, and my friends tell me its normal
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (14 December 2010):
 If you are experiencing pain during sex (I'm assuming you mean intercourse?) then of course you should stop. It's your body's way of saying, "enough" because that means you could be injuring yourself.
I think some sensible discussion surrounding what your limits are is in order. If he's withholding having his own orgasm until your limits are reached, then let him know that's not really working for you. If he's having trouble reaching orgasm, then he's the one who needs to think about why that is occurring and what steps you two can take to help him reach orgasm sooner, before you feel pain.
Two hours of intercourse is a lot of friction on sensitive tissue.
One strategy you could try is to not have sex for a week (and he not masturbate) and see if that has any effect. He may be so overstimulated that he simply cannot feel anything. The nerves get overloaded and he basically is numbed.
I would suggest that he talk to his doctor as well, to make sure something else isn't going on (like a hidden tumor or growth that is causing the problem).
Good luck, and please remember that a good sex life depends on good communication.
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reader, StraightTalker  +, writes (14 December 2010):
An hour or two is actually a very long time I dont understand why you're worrying about not lasting "long enough"!
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