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writes:Hi, I am going through a lot these days. I have a tough situation I am dealing with. I have a new topic. I have been together with My boyfriend for a year. He recently got a divorce from someone he was married to for 6 years. He has been separated from her for a year and the divorce was final in September. He has no kids with her but she had 2 girls that were from other relationships. He has told me before that he cares about them still and misses them and wants to stay involved in their lives.This was very hard for me to understand since they are not his blood. I understand caring for them and possibly sending birthday or holiday gifts but not keeping close contact like he wants to. The ex treated him like crap and cheated on him. She told him while he was deployed that she wanted a divorce. he wanted to work it out but she didn't. He says he's over her and only want to be in the girls lives but that means also dealing with her. He talks to her and I hate it. I feel like he is trying to hold on to what he had with them and that relationship. I feel like he will never completely move on if he's constantly dealing with them.He knows I don't like it and tells me he loves me but I can't understand the need to stay in contact with them. Am I being unreasonable? This on top of my other situation has me an emotional wreck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2010): update - well he did say that he is having a hard time letting go and that he will be in contact with the mom and if I don't like it too bad.
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reader, ljhenhmla +, writes (14 December 2010):
It a real difficult decision 2 make I myself am in the same situation my ex want me 2 still be a part of her daughters life but I have to begin distancing myself because I think in the end I will get hurt. Just like ur bf because when his ex find a new bf he'll feel the same way that u feel he's not the father so why doe he want to keep in touch. It really sad that the kids will get hurt but he really has to begin to pull away before he gets hurt even more. So ur not wrong for feeling this way its just some people won't say it goodluck
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